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A couple IRL trans people I know are convinced that I'm trans and it's adorable (hexbear.net)

submitted 4 days ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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God if this happened 15 years ago I'd be super upset and defensive. I try to apply the Hexbear Code of Conduct in the real world, so I'm probably above average for cis men for being decent to trans people (but still there's a lot of space to grow!). I've always failed miserably at being a normal cis guy, I'm shit at sports, I don't do tough guy attitude well, and I'm pretty kind and emotional. I've also taken advantage of the recent explosion of gender fluidity recently to update my style a bit: there are more pinks and pastel colours in my wardrobe than their used to be.

I forgot to mention, my voice has a bit of a "gay twang", as friends have told me. Thankfully it's never bothered me, but I get asked if I'm gay a lot.

So maybe it's partly my fault, but a couple of the younger trans people in my life are convinced that I'm a trans woman. I think it's sweet, they've let me into their secret club. They often reassure me that I'm a woman if I want and that's OK.

My only real fear is that I'll waste their time or their good intentions. They seem really motivated to help me socially transition, but I can't see going anywhere past a cis dude that sometimes wears cute shirts.

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[–] [email protected] 8 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

To add on to what others gave already said, a lot of eggs don't realize they're trans because they see specific behaviors and thoughts as "normal," like fish who don't see the water they swim in. Often eggs will think things like "Of course everyone has thoughts about being the opposite gender and having the body to go with it!" not realizing no, cis people do not constantly wish they could occupy opposite bodies. Having constant thoughts like that is a sign you're an egg.

It's similar to bisexual and pansexual people who think "Of course everyone has sexual fantasies involving all genders! But I'm straight because I don't participate in homosexual behaviors," not realizing that straight people don't have those same fantasies or thoughts. Being trans isn't a sexuality (obviously), but it's how cisheteronormativity is forced onto everything, causing LGBTQ+ people to not realize they're LGBTQ+.

Eggs remain eggs instead of cracking because they continue to conform to gender roles pushed on them by the rest of life, starting with being assigned a gender at birth by parents and doctors.

Take this description with a grain of salt since I'm a cishet guy. Anyone feel free to correct me if I've said something wrong or inappropriate.