Respectfully, active investing (where you're routinely making decisions about what to do) is a losing game for randos like us.

Passive investing (particularly with as emotional as you feel about it, which I understand!) is probably what you are after.

There is ~0 chance you (or I!) will make the active decisions well. Get some passive stuff going, it's so boring you forget about it, which dovetails right into that investing philosophy tbh.