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submitted 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) by cheese_greater@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

Legit dont get what this is or how it could ever be appealing

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[-] Diddlydee@feddit.uk 22 points 11 months ago

What don't you get? It's angry sex. Like you've had an argument, and you fuck, and it's angry.

[-] latenightnoir@lemmy.world 24 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

Not just that, but even works with general tension.

Had this neighbor at my old place, she loved to replicate a full cinematic experience at 1 AM, played music very loudly during the day, sorta' calmed down after I started knocking on walls, but not really (she'd still go full blast with the movies up to midnight, still generously shared whatever she was listening to with the rest of her neighbors, etc.)

So, being the socialite that I am, I started responding in kind. Not with blaring movies at night, but with trying to compensate for her concerts with my own, singing poorly and loudly around the house, stuff like that. And we kinda' settled into that routine of mutual annoyance.

Thing is, though, I was attracted to her, but in a purely lustful way. And I'm pretty sure she had something similar going on her end, because the tension was palpable every time we met face to face. And, lemme tell ya', that wasn't the "I want to strangle you" kind of tension. Well, maybe some strangling, but not the main focus.

What I tried to explain through this venting of unspent frustrations is that sometimes you just get the hots for someone you don't like as a person, and that would most definitely not stop either of you from bumping uglies. Quite the contrary, the interpersonal tension usually amplifies the sexual one. The wonders of biological imperatives at work!

[-] cheese_greater@lemmy.world 9 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

~~Dont~~ stahp downvoting urself :)

[-] latenightnoir@lemmy.world 9 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

Sorry, based on principles, the remove upvote... uuh... stays?:))

this post was submitted on 02 Mar 2025
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