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I don't think I've ever seen the term 'incel' be used that out of context, and especially not on this website. It's a very specific term, circumscribed to communities of people who are driven by a misanthropic, most often mysoginistic world view. I have just never seen anyone say 'incel' to refer to someone who is currently unable or have never had sex. At the end of the day we have to discuss language as it is actually used.
It's used IRL all the time, and also on places other than hexbear, lemmygrad, etc. I've personally seen it.
It's not that I don't believe what you're saying, its just that it hasn't been my experience. Far from it. Almost always what I see is people calling out incels for what they are. The closest that I remember has been people lashing out against what they incorrectly perceive to be an incel - not in the sense that being a virgin or unable to have sex is derogatory, but that the derogatory part is the massive, insane mysoginy that is tied to inceldom as a subculture.
That's the key point where this thread misses me. Incels are a subculture. They recognize themselves as such and are recognized by virtually everybody else as a group apart. Nobody can 'be caught in the crossfire' unless they act or at least appear to act like an incel. You're not an incel because you're a virgin (incels aren't, necessarily) and you aren't an incel because you aren't having sex as of late (incels do engage with sex workers they claim to hate). You're an incel because you buy into an entire worldview that reduces people to things, human relations to a marketplace and turns the sum of humanity into a phrenology experiment to deflect from one's faults and mistakes.
I think in an attempt to critique the toxic ppl online, innocent bystanders do get hit with the crossfire. There are definitely actual involuntary celibates that get hurt when someone says "man fuck those stupid incels they're so toxic." I 100% believe this.