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How do you get over a crush? (hexbear.net)

submitted 1 week ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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It is kinda ruining my life lmao. I have never felt this strongly for anyone. When we talk, I can ride that high for days. But then she gives me (what I perceive as) the cold shoulder and the depression I feel... boy. It's been like this for months. I cannot go on, man.

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[–] [email protected] 34 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

A crush is a kind of fantasy (in that you idealise someone, imagine how your life could be with them, etc). You destroy the fantasy by exposing it to reality/action, in this case expressing your feelings honestly to the person. If it works out then great, if it doesn’t then it’ll be easier to reorient yourself and you’ll find someone new to crush on.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 week ago

I had this absolutely fantastical unreal expectation of what I thought a friend of mine would be like if we dated and it turned out my fantasy was completely underselling them and we’re married now and I want this for everyone

Every other crush I’ve had was way off from reality in a bad way, and this one was way off from reality in the best way possible.