Off My Chest
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I felt like this after the ending of a reeally long relationship, in the end what worked was actually to stop trying so hard.
I came to the conclusion that no relationship lasts forever, and instead of trying so hard to find someone that really gets me, I started caring more about what I wanted and what I enjoyed.
I started seeing relationships more like, well this may work or not, but I'm having fun till now, I'll enjoy it until I stop enjoying it and after that, no hard feelings, it just didn't work and that's fine.
You have to know that you are a whole person by yourself, you don't really need someone else to complete you, or depend on them. You have to learn to love yourself. If you can muster that confidence to manage that, you'll find that people will find you more attractive, no matter your looks.
This is me rn after a 12 year relationship breakup. I have a hot GF now and I equally enjoy just being home alone than with her or friends. It's about me now.