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From chapter 3 of The Will to Change (join the book club!) while she's discussing how mass media reinforces partriarchal norms onto boys and young men

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[-] [email protected] 14 points 6 months ago

The Earthsea books by Ursula Le Guin are pretty good, though I only read the first one

[-] [email protected] 11 points 6 months ago

They’re also pretty hard reads for kids though. No one does tell, don’t show like LeGuin… but definitely not a style you can consume as easily

[-] [email protected] 3 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)

No one does tell, don’t show like LeGuin

did you mean show, don't tell— or am I misunderstanding

[-] [email protected] 2 points 6 months ago

Nope, which is what makes her writing so unique. Show don’t tell is the standard way of doing things, but LeGuinn often verges into tell for large chunks. Highly recommended reading The Ones Who Walk Away from Omelas, if you want to see how crazy she can get with it!

[-] [email protected] 1 points 6 months ago

yeah I've read that, a great story

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