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[–] [email protected] 28 points 4 days ago (3 children)

The idea isn't for women who are already in relationships with partners who support women's rights. The idea is more, for single women, to refuse to start any relationship at all right now. Which honestly, in an era where basic women's healthcare is under attack, maybe starting a relationship right now isn't the best idea. Will your women's rights-supporting boyfriend agree to become abstinent when the birth control you're using is taken off the market due to conservatives? Or will they want to move to the pull-out method or just accept the risk of being pregnant?

If you're a single woman, honestly, right now, maybe staying single through these next four years isn't a bad idea. It has nothing to do with the actions or beliefs of a potential partner, and everything with the fact that being a woman in any straight sexual relationship when conservatives are ascendant simply has a lot of unavoidable risks with it. The religious crazies in power believe that the only veto a woman deserves over being pregnant is the choice to have sex or not. And they seek to take away any way for women to prevent getting pregnant besides not having sex. These Christian nationalists, who were just elected, believe that the only choice women have should be pregnancy risk or abstinence.

You need to have a reality check here. The United States federal government, and the majority of state governments, will be telling every woman of reproductive age, "be abstinent or risk pregnancy. Any other tool to prevent pregnancy is morally wrong."

The government is literally trying to coerce women not to have sex before marriage. The government is literally trying to coerce women not to have sex before they're ready to become a mothers. The people soon to be in charge of the government literally believe that the only just use of sex is pregnancy. And they rule accordingly.

In what universe would you expect this to not result in a complete collapse of pre-marital sexual opportunities for straight men? It's not about punishing men. It's not that you do or do not have the right views or beliefs, or that you are a good or bad person. It's simply that for women, in this world that is being created, having sex before marriage simply isn't safe.

Sexual liberation was possible only due to the availability of effective contraception, birth control, and abortion. If you turn the contraceptive landscape back a century, sexual norms will have to return there as well. You are NOT going to have a world where there's no access to contraceptives where women are still perfectly happy being in sexual relationships before marriage.

Men, I hope you're ready to put a ring on it. Otherwise, you ain't gettin' any. Sorry, you wanted this world; you voted for it.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 3 days ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Sorry, you wanted this world; you voted for it.

You seem to be unaware or are forgetting that the majority of white women wanted it too. The exit poll stats show the majority of people across the board in about every demographic "wanted this world"; it was a massive defeat for the vestiges of the American political left.

The Trump campaign successfully set up their media machine to equate every environmental protection, women's autonomy, labor protection, and re-enfranchisement policy proposal of the working class to a talking point of a screeching radical feminist harpy cartoon character that's bent on "destroying the patriarchy churches, and America."

The DNC handwaved the concerns of the working class again to fellate the billionaire and corporate donors, the "moderate" republicans, and the social justice warriors simultaneously, thinking that would work somehow.

The blame lies on the us if we let the DNC establishment keep their jobs in the next round of primaries.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (3 children)

So this is where we are now? All men wanted this? All men voted for this?

What next level bs is that. I did not vote for this. And if this is the blanket us vs. them that women are espousing then sexism is only going to get much worse. I did not vote for this, but people like you are starting a gender war for no reason. You are breeding sexism.

I need a reality check? The irony. You need to understand that a majority of women voted for this and not all men did. Women like you seem so ready to hate these days. If women keep attacking anyone and everyone because of what a small section of that group did they'll have no allies very soon.

But sure, encourage all women to not be in a relationship. Encourage another form of isolation for women who may find great happiness in having a partner.

So much resentment and vile in your response. You're so ready to have a war to fight, you don't much care who it's against. How much your approach to problems lines up with MAGA is uncanny.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 2 days ago (1 children)

So this is where we are now? All men wanted this? All men voted for this?

It's not about punishment. It's about practicality given the circumstances.

I did not vote for this either, but it would be foolish to not acknowledge that sex will become far riskier for women if they do not have access to abortion and contraceptives.

The preceding commenter's response wasn't vile or hateful. It was a very matter-of-fact presentation of the situation that we (as a society) are facing.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

"Sorry, you wanted this world, you voted for it"

That is very toxic. Maybe women voted for this and many men didn't. My point is this kind of talk does nothing but create more sexism. Yes sex is riskier, yes I can understand abstinence, but what I can't understand is villainizing all men. We can't ask why young men are turning out hateful if we constantly treat them like the enemy.