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Met with a psychiatrist for ADHD diagnosis (sopuli.xyz)

submitted 1 year ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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I just had my first ever meeting with a psychiatrist to get diagnosed with ADHD.

Long story short, they said that I clearly exhibit ADHD symptoms.

But they're not willing to go forward with a diagnosis because, according to them, I seem to be doing alright in my life, so the symptoms are hardly causing me enough problems to be eligible for a diagnosis. (And also because there's no evidence of me having had such symptoms in childhood.)

And I was just sitting there thinking, do you really think I would be here if I didn't think the symptoms were causing me problems in life?

Based on what they said, they expected me to have experienced things like getting warnings or being fired from jobs, ruining my relationships with people, and such. And they suggested the usual things, exercise, the Pomodoro method, etc. As if I haven't tried them already.

My bad for masking so well, I guess.

Anyway, just wanted to vent a bit. I know it's too common a story. I guess the next thing I need to do is to find a psychiatrist specializing in adult ADHD. Once my (still undiagnosed) ADHD lets me do that.

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Thank you for the encouragement! Looking back, it's obvious that I was dealing with the same issues already in my late teens and early twenties, but it was only during my postgraduate studies that they really started to become an impediment and I started suspecting that I might have ADHD. Now that I have my PhD and am pursuing an academic career, I've really started feeling my web of coping mechanisms start to rip at the seams, and I fear that eventually something will give and everything will come crashing down.

(And one of the reasons the psychiatrist didn't think I can have ADHD is that I managed to complete a PhD and have a decent academic job. But there are tons of stories out there about people doing exactly that?)

Making a list of the ways I struggle and what I'm doing to mask them is a very good suggestion. But it also sounds difficult, because many of the coping mechanisms are so ingrained at this point that I don't even realize they're coping mechanisms. And because I need to remember to write things down when I think of them!

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Oh yeah, making the list is going to be a pain in the ass! For mine, I started a little note for it in my phone, and every time I came across an ADHD thing while internetting that made me think "omg me too!" I would put it on the list. I also sorta "cheated" to get started by looking at lists of symptoms and problems and coping strategies and copying anything that was relevant to me. I think it helped that I didn't set out to get it all down at once, I just added to it here and there as I thought of things while doing other things, and it grew.

Here's some of mine, maybe this can help you get the ball rolling?

Symptoms in Adulthood:

Head full of constant noise - songs, chatter, repeated phrases - “bees in head” - EEAAO perfect illustration w IRS meeting scene
Bumping into things, bruises, falling - I used to be a dancer, I have great balance and pretty good coordination, but I'm a real klutz when I'm not focused on movement, get injured often, and am literally constantly sporting at least a couple bruises from just existing in my house - what will happen when I'm elderly and fragile???
talk too much/overshare, interrupting
struggle to read anything not totally engrossing, but then dead to the world when engrossed
Financial instability, overdrafts, credit issues, etc - much better now with autopay etc, but I still occasionally fuck up and pay the "ADHD Tax" at least a couple times a year.
Auditory processing issues, difficulty with spoken multi-step instructions, have to write things down
Often blank on direct questions - what do you like, what have you been doing, etc
Lose track of time
Can only do one or two things a day, have to devote entire day to social function or anything very taxing
Have to set reminders and add things to list immediately or they will be forgotten
Rejection sensitivity
Completely derailed by strong emotions
struggle to develop habits (but does make it easier to drop bad ones like smoking, binge drinking)

Attempts to help self:

Lists and reminders - I even have lists of lists and reminders of reminders, it is absurd
Routines, sleep hygiene
Breaking big tasks into small
DBT workbook to help with emotional issues
Meditation - I can't reliably do the sitting still kind, but the walking/doing kind is very helpful
Exercise (elliptical, pilates, weights, yoga)
Coffee, energy drinks
Podcasts and music to try to power through boring tasks

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Oh wow, thank you so much for the list! Almost all of the symptoms you've listed apply to me too. Some of them I didn't even think would be related to ADHD, like blanking on direct questions.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

🤗 I hope it helps, and even more, I hope you get the care you need. Diagnosis and medication made a huge difference in my life, most importantly in how I think of myself. Doing anything I can do to help anyone else on that road feels really good, because it's as much an act of self-compassion as it is an act of service.