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[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I guess if you’re viewing your relationship as a form of restriction.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

i think it is more like emotional distance?

its creepy to intentionally not be with someone else after a breakup because there is some weird lingering feelings. like get over it move on

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago (2 children)

One day after breakup you will have some lingering feelings and hooking up with someone else just to suppress them is not a healthy reflex I think. Especially if the other person doesnt know youre with them just to strike a “hit” and feel less shitty with yourself.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

I've been in breakups where I immediately got with someone else and I've been in breakups where I wanted to take some time on my own afterwards. Feelings are complicated and there's no right answer to every situation.

[–] [email protected] -1 points 1 year ago

It's not healthy, but rebounds are perfectly understandable. Like getting drunk alone after a break up

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

No I view being dumped as something that makes me sad and getting laid as a shot in the arm that cures the sads for a little bit so I don't become a mopey fuck