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It was a quaint thing to do 25 years ago, today it's kind of creepy.
Wtf do you think I'm asking for them to give me her as a prize or something? Im telling her parents how much I love her and asking them if they'll accept me into the family, then I'll ask the same of her.
I mean, yes, that is where the tradition comes from. I would be so insulted if my partner asked my parents if they wanted me to marry someone, before they even spoke to me about it. I'm sure you know your potential partner better than we do, but it's still worth considering that they might not be as into it as you assume.
If the parents say no, do you just silently drop the whole thing? Of course not. It's kind of performative, and the message it sends is quite out of date.
Don't listen to the haters in this thread. I got married 7 years ago. I asked, but it was more of a 'hey, I'm going to ask her; are you guys ok with it?'.
Like when I proposed, I already knew the answer to the question.
Don't worry about ... Checks notes "jerk face". Just do your thing.
I don't think that is permissible content
What are you on about? It is the classic juvenile response, because your response was also juvenile.
What I'm on about is that you just made a personal attack. And now you're playing obtuse about it.
I understand you found my comment to be juvenile, but I respectfully disagree. If you cannot make your point without personal insults, maybe online forums aren't your thing. When you see someone you think is being juvenile, responding in kind is not helpful and it's not a defense of your behaviour, even if I were being juvenile first.
If I were to think to myself, "That was a shitty thing you just did to me, now I'm going to be shitty back to you," it would not help either of us, but I would be justified according to you.
So, you saying that OP is creepy is ok, but me saying "no you are" is not?
I suppose you don't distinguish between calling an action creepy and calling a person creepy. Well then, at least now we now what we disagree about.