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Sylvia Rivera, born on July 2 in 1951, was a Latina American queer rights activist, member of the Gay Liberation Front, and community worker from the state of New York.

Rivera, who identified as a "half-sister", participated in demonstrations with the Gay Liberation Front. With her close friend Marsha P. Johnson, Rivera co-founded the Street Transvestite Action Revolutionaries (STAR), a socialist group dedicated to helping homeless young drag queens, gay youth, and trans women.

At different times in her life, Rivera battled substance abuse and lived on the streets, largely in the gay homeless community at the Christopher Street docks. Her experiences made her more focused on advocacy for those who, in her view, mainstream society and the assimilationist factions of the LGBT community were leaving behind.

Rivera died during the dawn hours of February 19th, 2002, at St. Vincent's Hospital, of complications from liver cancer. Activist Riki Wilchins said this of her: "In many ways, Sylvia was the Rosa Parks of the modern transgender movement, a term that was not even coined until two decades after Stonewall".

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) (6 children)

I just got banned from my friend group's discord for saying "if someone just switched from their cis pronouns to 'any' they probably lean towards their trans pronouns but they're just dipping their toes in the water." For "not respecting peoples preferred pronouns"

There's literally no context I'm leaving out and the mods refuse to discuss it until I apologise .-.

I can see how it might come across as NB erasure but I expect they also would want to try their "new" pronouns out too.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 months ago (2 children)

You're in the wrong here.

Your job is not to analyze what someone's gender identity actually is. Your job is to respect the pronouns the other person gave you. Unless they specifically tell you so, you're making assumptions regarding their gender identity. Even if you're 100% right, you don't get a say in how other people define themselves.

You can absolutely say you prefer to use the new pronouns, just don't make any assumptions. It probably isn't that big a deal. Just admit it was a faux pas and do some self-crit.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 4 months ago (1 children)

I am respecting them by using one of their preferred pronouns

[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 months ago

"they probably lean towards their trans pronouns but they're just dipping their toes in the water."

You are making assumptions about their gender identity here. Did they tell you specifically that they lean towards their new pronouns? No? Okay, then don't voice your assumptions about how other people identify.

I am respecting them by using one of their preferred pronouns

That's not the problem. You can use correct pronouns and still have an incorrect understanding of their gender identity.

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