Edit - This is a post to the meta group of Blåhaj Lemmy. It is not intended for the entire lemmyverse. If you are not on Blåhaj Lemmy and plan on dropping in to offer your opinion on how we are doing things in a way you don't agree with, your post will be removed.
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A user on our instance reported a post on lemmynsfw as CSAM. Upon seeing the post, I looked at the community it was part of, and immediately purged all traces of that community from our instance.
I approached the admins of lemmynsfw and they assured me that the models with content in the community were all verified as being over 18. The fact that the community is explicitly focused on making the models appear as if they're not 18 was fine with them. The fact that both myself and one a member of this instance assumed it was CSAM, was fine with them. I was in fact told that I was body shaming.
I'm sorry for the lack of warning, but a community skirting the line trying to look like CSAM isn't a line I'm willing to walk. I have defederated lemmynsfw and won't be reinstating it whilst that community is active.
I support the decision (and it contributes towards my decision to move away from lemmy.world since I am mostly on this server anyway) but I think you have the wrong rationale behind this decision. Yes everything you say is valid but you don't need those reasons. Saying that its close to CSAM or that you assumed that it was just puts you in a position where people can criticize your position because maybe they don't see it that way and would not have assumed it to be that if they saw it unprompted (these are terrible arguments but people will make them). The offending community is built on principles that are incompatible with this server. You do not want the server that you host and admin (and its communities) to so closely share a user base with that community given the type of content it encourages, regardless of the legality of that content. Thus you are defederating.
Basically you could be a whole lot more corporate sterile about this messaging.
This is exactly what I'm trying to avoid. I am wearing my heart on my sleeve by choice.
Sure, but that puts you at a disadvantage when it comes to the message. You don't have to be full corpo sterile to just ensure that you are not making mistakes in your message. This sort of decision should not be an emotional one IMO.
Of course it's an emotional one. I have no desire to downplay that and pretend that my response was dispassionate. It very much was not