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Putting up a wall isn't something I do typically. Basically when I go into a group or whatever I am myself because I can't really hide behind a fake persona or whatever anymore (for a number of reasons, not important here). When I've tried to be the person others expect they walk all over me or use me then toss me away. When I'm myself they reject me. So if I have a wall up it's not very high and definitely doesn't stay up. So I guess I don't get it. I try so hard and it always ends the same either way.
I don’t have any lightning bolt insights to share. Honestly it sounds like you’re doing a lot of what I might suggest - sharing something you enjoy with like minded others and being engaged in that community to try to make connections. Maybe you’re sensing more isolation than is really there?
Have you tired things like hiking or other sorts of outdoor activities offline where you might meet people? Local library events? Stuff like that?
Dunno. If something is going, say an event is coming up, I'd say 'hey anyone want to group up and do this? We can schedule a day/time even!' and literally no one would engage with it. So it was a lot of just talking to myself.
I mean go anyway, if your online people won't or can't. At the least you do something or see something you like or might like (like an art museum, or cool park or event) and while there you'll be around like minded people and maybe click.
Worst case you saw that new place, discovered that thing or enjoyed a familiar event.
You have to keep putting yourself out there, hard as it is and frustrating and disappointing as it may be. Why? Because that's where what you want is.
When you do find it it will have been worth it.
I wish it was easier and that you were not struggling. Takes a tough soul to do so and admitting its hard takes guts. Give yourself credit for trying like hell.