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'I felt like a freak because I didn't want children' (www.bbc.co.uk)

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[–] [email protected] 18 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) (3 children)

It's so much easier as a man to be child free, aside from women hitting on me telling me what a great dad I'd be.

Yeah, maybe I would be. Don't want it.

Have never pursued sterilization though, might've gotten a small amount of the judgment women get then. Maybe.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 4 months ago

When I got sterilized, the doctor asked me if I was in a committed relationship. Told him I was. Then he said that I need to treat this as permanent. Told him it wasn't a problem. He pushed a little more but inevitable told him that if things changed and I ended up with a woman who wanted children, adoption was an option. That ended it for me, and I was able to get the procedure done. I don't know if this is typical for men, but that was my experience.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 4 months ago

I got a vasectomy when I was 31 and have never looked back. Would highly recommend it if you're committed to being child free. Was a simple discussion with my (male) GP and after a few questions to make sure I understood the implications and that I had thought it through he gave me the referral.

I really feel bad for women - they have so much more stigma and a harder time with this in general, even in progressive countries.