neurodiverse
What is Neurodivergence?
It's ADHD, Autism, OCD, schizophrenia, anxiety, depression, bi-polar, aspd, etc etc etc etc
“neurologically atypical patterns of thought or behavior”
So, it’s very broad, if you feel like it describes you then it does as far as we're concerned
Rules
1.) ableist language=post or comment will probably get removed (enforced case by case, some comments will be removed and restored due to complex situations). repeated use of ableist language=banned from comm and possibly site depending on severity. properly tagged posts with CW can use them for the purposes of discussing them
2.) always assume good faith when dealing with a fellow nd comrade especially due to lack of social awareness being a common symptom of neurodivergence
2.5) right to disengage is rigidly enforced. violations will get you purged from the comm. see rule 3 for explanation on appeals
3.) no talking over nd comrades about things you haven't personally experienced as a neurotypical chapo, you will be purged. If you're ND it is absolutely fine to give your own perspective if it conflicts with another's, but do so with empathy and the intention to learn about each other, not prove who's experience is valid. Appeal process is like appealing in user union but you dm the nd comrade you talked over with your appeal (so make it a good one) and then dm the mods with screenshot proof that you resolved it. fake screenies will get you banned from the site, we will confirm with the comrade you dm'd.
3.5) everyone has their own lived experiences, and to invalidate them is to post cringe. comments will be removed on a case by case basis depending on determined level of awareness and faith
4.) Interest Policing will not be tolerated in any form. Support your comrades in their joy!
Further rules to be added/ rules to be changed based on community input
RULES NOTE: For this community more than most we understand that the clarity and understandability of these rules is very important for allowing folks to feel comfortable, to that end please don't be afraid to be outspoken about amendments and addendums to these rules, as well as any we may have missed
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Thanks a ton, this must have taken a ton of time to write. We are definitely getting better at the parallel play thing (it's me who took some time to get adjusted to not getting all the attention from my gf after the infatuation phase of the rel) so I don't worry about that anymore. And we are communicating things that annoy us, hurt us etc so we will be OK on that front. I guess I am overthinking things as usual.
Are you a therapist by any chance (if you don't want to answer for opsec reasons it's OK obviously)? Because your answers are more empathetic and helpful that the professionals I have been to. I think you would be really good at it
Thanks, that's very kind of you to say. I'm not qualified as a therapist nor in any sort of related profession like psychology.
I have worked in paraprofessional roles that are either explicitly peer work or that I have kinda implicitly made into peer work roles because I'm going to bring myself to those roles and there's not a damn thing that anyone can do about it lol. (I have worked in the youth/mental health/disability/community sectors in different capacities.)
I think a lot of it is just having been through a lot of shit and having sought out ways to turn horrible personal experiences into something that makes a positive impact on the world in some small way; I've had more than my fair share of bad times, and for a lot of them I don't really see me ever truly making sense of them or being at peace with them, but if I can draw upon that shit to make something good out of it then it helps to give purpose to what I've been through - and maybe that's the best outcome I can reasonably expect.
The other aspect is I'm some sort of weird nerdy autodidact creature that just pours themselves into subjects and absorbs information like a sponge, and I'd say that it's mostly out of sheer luck that I ended up with the right combination of things that makes this work for me. I can usually hold my own when it comes to matters of psychology or social work or whatever, although I'm no expert.
I think in the next year or two I'm either going to get back in the saddle with this stuff or otherwise I'm going to throw myself into party work/work that's parallel to a party but I'm not quite at that point yet.
Sounds like you have done a lot of good. I hope you end up doing something to your liking