I know that "females" is seen as icky when describing women or girls, but since not all women were born female and not all born females are women, would that make addressing them as such transphobic?

I had to deal with this one lady my age who was/is friends with a girl who used to bully me (I caught up with her and the bully is so far nice, it's been four years so it's possible, even likely, she changed). She was even worse than the bully, she constantly acted like she was going to attack me, screamed my name like she was my archnemesis in a story, and after sending threats to me, calling me names, and telling me to die, she made several other accounts with different names like "Kaitlyn", "Josephine", etc. all friending me and liking my posts. I knew it was her from the mannerisms, being friends with all the lady's friends, and one other thing: Kaitlyn was her username but her display name was kept as her real name.

She didn't do anything harmful but she tried to see who I was friends with, what places I went, what I posted, etc. She never answered my messages, though, she'd just look at what I posted and who was my friend.

I'm not talking about troll posts, but like innocent posts that always have 1 or 2 downvotes on every comment they post. Is it someone disagreeing or just a downvote troll?

my mom is jewish and russian… as you can imagine, we have family in russia and israel, both of which are very hated for the wars going on there. i’m personally very anti-war, but i’m afraid people, especially irl, will hate me for my background.

I like the idea of holding hands or hugging my girlfriend, but IDK if I see her as a romantic partner or more of a deep platonic one.

I would never want to kiss anyone or have sex, I never feel ready to have it with anyone, it just feels weird. I can get attached but I dunno…

In my fictional country, my character banned Kiwi Farms, but someone said that it would mean she hated free speech.

She doesn’t want harassment to occur in her country: for her citizens to harass others or become victims/“lolcows”.

I know it’s my world, but I need some advice.

I’m asking here because I may get judged less. I’m not asking as a hateful person. In my story, my worldbuilding, there is a fictional Queen who is banning sites like Kiwi Farms.

so i was talking to a maga family member about one of my stories i was planning to make, which happened to have a diverse set of characters from different cultures and countries.

the family member responded by calling the characters “dei”? (diversity, equity, inclusion) is this a word that maga uses as a slur?

i don’t even get how having diverse characters is an insult. do they WANT every single character in everything ever made to be white or something?

right-wing, left-wing, liberal, whatever. i’m not too knowledgeable on politics and I feel like this is really stupid to ask, but I’m curious.

It’s a dream, so I may never fulfill it, but I’ve always wanted to start some sort of organization, like many have done, where i donate certain necessities and money to other countries—especially underdeveloped ones, possibly using tax money?

Obviously like the other questions like this say, it’s not a diagnosis. Plus, this guy refuses help, but I know it’s surely something his behavior indicates.

According to my fiancé, he:

Like, no, you trying to beat me up every time I don’t do what you want can’t be excused with “just being mad”.

Again, this is not for armchair diagnosis. Just to analyze the behavior.

My sister Lena (14F) has just graduated the eighth grade. All throughout middle school, she had a friend named Ashlyn (14F).

Ashlyn presented a sort of “face” to Lena that attracted her: kind, a good listener, supportive, etc. Early on, Lena started to figure out that Ashlyn had red flags, but didn’t think much of them. For example, Ashlyn would ask “Lena, do you know that everyone hates you? I don’t know why but X student said Y about you! And it’s such a shame, you’re so kind!”

Ashlyn would also say stuff like that she was the “main character”, that she was the “queen bee”, etc. She would often call herself a fashion expert and she and her friends would make fun of Lena for her hair, clothes, etc.

Once, Ashlyn apparently said that she had NPD, and is reported by others to behave narcissistically.

A way I can describe Ashlyn is: cares a lot about status and appearance. She wants to be rich, popular, and pretty. She’s athletic, passionate, and energetic. Very influential of her peers and goes after what she wants without much care of others or how it affects them.

Ashlyn really likes sports, but she found out one day that Lena does not. Ashlyn got mad at Lena for being bad at sports despite not playing, tried to hurt(?) Lena multiple times by throwing the ball at her face/head, etc. She also expects Lena to catch a ball that she throws way over her head, behind her or in a completely different direction (Ex: If Ashlyn throws to a girl who is standing across the room from Lena and way to the right, she expects Lena to catch it, not the other girl).

Ashlyn has talked behind her back and started fights with Lena multiple times, threatening to kick her out of the friend group permanently and never speak to her again. Often, the reasons will be for petty stuff such as: not liking her disorder, not liking her tics, not liking her stutter, saying hi to her, or confusing one word for another (ex: saying “instigating” instead of “antagonizing”).

Ashlyn has admitted that she isn’t a good person and that she pretends to be nice to everyone so she doesn’t make enemies and ruin her reputation at school. She even sends videos in the group chat saying she hates certain people, or saying “me with most of you!! 😂”. She also just smiled and nodded whenever Lena said something and said it’s because she doesn’t care about Lena or what she has to say.

After “throwing Lena away”, so to speak, she then acts really nice and really wants Lena to talk to her again. Lena has gotten used to this by now, I’m sure. Lena has told Ashlyn many times about how she feels, but Ashlyn cares more about her image, truly, than about how she affects others. Ashlyn does not want to seek help because she thinks seeking professional help is too expensive, doesn’t care enough to do any introspection or see how she affects people, and would rather talk to her friends.

It seems Ashlyn truly doesn’t see there’s a problem.

Ashlyn acts like an expert on advice often and wants personal information from Lena, but does not give any information about herself to Lena, only about her achievements.

Ashlyn’s half-black (mixed), so she also thinks she has an excuse to call people multiple slurs. She was born in America, though, unlike Lena, who was born in Chile, so she found that to tease her for too.

This behavior is certainly abusive. Lena has graduated and will not see Ashlyn again or for a while, and I was wondering what your thoughts were or if NPD people can act like this.

Or narcissistic behavior like some people have said?

From my friend Jaiden that I posted about, just curious.

My online friend Jaiden lives in and is from the Philippines. She has dealt with a lot of trauma and abusive parents, it seems, and also seems to have been bullied. I have heard from many people, especially those who have been to the Philippines, that it’s great. The country is pretty and the people are nice.

However, Jaiden says it’s quite the contrary. I am taking into consideration her trauma and another comment that she herself could be lying and actually the bully or someone with okay parents. We don’t know. But anyway, she says that it’s a very racist, neo-Nazi country filled with murderers.

i am russian. i moved here as a child at like 10 years. i currently live in united states but my mom and i miss russia.

we want to go back for visiting but i don’t know how safe it would be.

This feels very stupid and uncertain to answer, but I get really curious.

I know certain people who are very manipulative. They care a lot about how they’re perceived. They put on a sort of “face” of agreeability and kindness, when in reality, they’re not like this at all.

They can fool almost anyone who doesn’t know them, because they’re very good actors. They don’t like a lot of people and even view a lot of them as not human.

They’ll find people to target, like disabled people specifically, who they view as objects or animals. They’ll show a completely different side to them. Manipulative, outwardly cruel, wanting to hurt them. And they never feel bad. They never apologize.

After all, to them, it’s the victim’s fault that they were hurt.

“If you just would have done X, I wouldn’t have hurt you!”

How can anyone be like this? I know it’s likely something in their brain, but why?