yayyyyy!!! i think we just needed to schedule a time to play games!

i'm sorry for posting about him a lot, i'll probably refrain from it after this. he usually feels empty even though he also feels excited and happy to see me and all that. he always says he doesn't know when i ask him anything. i give him gifts and he promises to and he doesn't. he always is busy and when he's not, he plays video games and claims he wants me to join but then he says he doesn't have time because he's too busy with his own interests to wanna talk to me or even play with me, and he loves video games. he says he's a horrible bf, and while i doubt that, he just switches up so much and it makes me sad. first off, he said he still liked his ex issac, then he told me i made it up and that he never said that. second, he says he doesn't know if he loves me and we should probably break up, but then he wants me to stay!! i don't wanna have to break up with him but i can't deal with someone who puts their interests over their partner and who says stuff and switches up, nor someone who says "that's the way i am".

every time i ask if he can do something for me, he can't because he puts his interests first. i have to ask him to treat me with as much importance but he says it's the way he is and that he can't. he's starting to make me really sad and i think i'm losing feelings for him after all that happened. he can't love me as much as he once could love someone, he said. i don't know what to believe, he switches up so much. he can't show affection either because it's how he is.

i've posted here before. i'm in an mlm relationship with my boyfriend of only 3 months. he struggles with depression and is probably addicted to video games as his coping mechanism. he said he didn't know if he still loved me last night and that he didn't know if we should even be dating because people would see him as a bad bf.

he also said that most of the time, he feels excited and happy to see me and hear from me as i'm the perfect bf, but sometimes he feels nothing for me due to his depression or stress and that while he usually bounces back to being happy again, he knows in his heart he likes me. he says he wants to stay with me and doesn't want me to break up. i don't wanna have to either.

he also says that he can't feel love for me like he once could with his exes issac and gabriel due to trauma, although he still loves me. he barely makes time for me. sometimes he's busy, which i get, but for the remaining time, he has time but spends 99% of it on playing games and doesn't even "have time" to play games with me because he tends to put his interests first. he also said that he was a horrible bf, and that makes me sad, because he really isn't. he just isn't affectionate even if i ask him to because it's "the way he is".

i've mostly heard from others that his love for me is platonic or that he does have feelings for me, but doesn't know what he wants.

i hate to use the term lightly just to throw it around and to complain about reddit, but of course, i need to get it off my chest. for those who haven't seen my posts, i'm transmasc and gay/bi. i'm part of the lgbtq+ community. there was a post i saw asking if it was transphobic, as a gay man, to not like trans men, and some responses just said it was his preference, while others said "yeah, because gay men don't date women" and the like.

like, i do understand the gay men who aren't sexually attracted to boobs or vagina, but like there's specific comments like these that give me the ick. "Your delusion is not going to erase my sexuality 🤷🏾‍♂️"

it reminds me that there's a saidit community called LGB drop the T.

now, i'm quite new to the gaybros communities on lemmy, but i wasn't once doubted as a man or called "pretending to be a man" for being trans, if i ever said i was.

he says he wants to stay but then he said he doesn’t know if he has feelings for me and if we should date, then he says he really likes me and wants to date, and when i asked him for clarification he just told me he wants to sleep.

he doesn't wanna end things either but it makes me sad sometimes how he acts and what he says

(i’m going to sleep too, will answer in the morning)

i posted this to get any advice i can get. he and i (both men) have only been together for 3 months but i really love him and want to support him. he's had a hard life and struggles with mental health and always feeling empty or depressed. sometimes, i watch his streams and ask about the game he's playing, and i don't even mind that he plays video games to cope or plays them at all, but he barely talks to me. we are long-distance, too, so i can't go visit him in-person. he doesn't really have time to talk due to playing his game and doesn't wanna stop and be affectionate or talk or anything when he's busy with the game. he does it constantly to the point where literally all he does is game and we barely talk from it, idk what to do.

now, i don't know if it's such a big deal, i'm (a trans man) just getting it "off my chest" (that's why i posted here). i love my boyfriend, but sometimes i wish he talked more to me. i understand, though. he's been struggling with mental health, but even when he says he's happy, he barely has any time for me because he's playing video games. he didn't even want to put the game down to say hi to me or text me because he thought it was annoying to do so, so i told him i'd let him play the game. i understand he plays games when he's bored or to cope with his life and depression, but he barely talks to me because that's how much he loves video games. we talk a few times per day and he says stuff like that"hi, i love you" "you're so handsome" but other than that, not really anything.

please be respectful, i don't need a rant on how much i suck as a bf, i'm really trying to figure out what to do to help.

i reposted this to mental health because it's kind of about his mental health struggles.

now, i don't know if it's such a big deal, i'm (a trans man) just getting it "off my chest" (that's why i posted here). i love my boyfriend, but sometimes i wish he talked more to me. i understand, though. he's been struggling with mental health, but even when he says he's happy, he barely has any time for me because he's playing video games. he didn't even want to put the game down to say hi to me or text me because he thought it was annoying to do so, so i told him i'd let him play the game. i understand he plays games when he's bored or to cope with his life and depression, but he barely talks to me because that's how much he loves video games. we talk a few times per day and he says stuff like that"hi, i love you" "you're so handsome" but other than that, not really anything.

please be respectful, i don't need a rant on how much i suck as a bf, i'm really trying to figure out what to do to help.

jeg oppdaget amerikanorsk for en stund siden og jeg synes det er veldig interessant

https://docs.google.com/presentation/d/1cQEwvgSridjfqL7WZlPFPfrHOfxVh3LyF8JWznT8Uno/edit?slide=id.g36c4d9e7eb0_1_293#slide=id.g36c4d9e7eb0_1_293

i'm currently using tesseract to view and post things, i've also heard of photon. are there any else?

that’s definitely me right now, sadly.