Woohoo, go you!
I had a long-distance train trip for a sporting event when I was not even a month sober. London to Amsterdam, a few days in Amsterdam, a trip to the cricket. My first sober holiday, my first sober cricket match.
I went in with the attitude of "got to learn how to do this sober, and there's no time like now."
I told the friend I was going to the cricket with that I was off the booze, so I wouldn't be making a decision on the spur of the moment, the decision was already made.
When the steward came down the train carriage with the drinks trolley, I said "Oh, I don't drink, but I could murder a coffee!" Fine, I got off the train vibrating from too much caffeine but I didn't have any alcohol.
I looked at restaurant menus in advance as far as I could, and made the decision of what to drink in advance, so I wasn't flustered and making the decision in a foreign language. Of course it was Amsterdam and everyone's English was perfect and the waiting staff were patient and kind, but it was one thing off the list of things I was worried about.
And, the one time a waiter made a mistake and brought me an alcoholic beer instead of the non-alcoholic version, I did the most un-English thing I've ever done and sent it back, rather than drinking it to avoid making a fuss 😁
I tried to use a scheduler but it posted everything three times, so it's just me, posting when I wake up 😁
Welcome, we're glad to have you here. There's a lot of support and suggestions in the pinned post on the sidebar. Feel free to bounce questions or ideas off the group.
I'm sure I've said it before, but one thing at a time.
"I'm going to give up booze and start couch to 5K and learn Ancient Babylonian and volunteer at the community garden and do all the housework and start walking to work and go on a diet and give up sugar and stop smoking." Stop it. You're going to get your head round "doing stuff without pouring booze on it" first, and heal from that toxic relationship first. This stuff is hard, why make it harder, and set yourself up for an increased risk of failure?
Community is so important for a lot of things, but with sobriety it's really helpful for reminding you that "you're not alone in this, and there's loads of us."
Welcome, we're glad to have you here.
Please bear in mind that deliberately depriving yourself of sleep can be extremely dangerous to yourself and to others.
I know this is really stupid and probably only works because I’m such a visual thinker, but figured I’d share in case anyone finds it helpful.
how does it go? "If it's stupid and it works, it's not stupid." 😁
I would caveat with "if it's stupid, it works and it's not dangerous, then it's not stupid."
Please be careful and make sure you know what the signs and symptoms are to seek medical attention if you need it.
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