The biggest concern i have is the gov id thing. Lemmy is not secure and its not meant to be. sending that stuff around through it is begging for issues.
Realistically i think the restriction on types of content and requiring active reputable sources for each post are on of those things where its "ok" for them to do, and i dont think they should have to host things they dont want to. i do however wish they hadnt branded this as being so open if it was going to be so restricted... i think incidents like this are honestly going to really hurt lemmy adoption overall as users get frustrated, and realize they have to move instances, and hope the next instance doesnt change their rules down the road too.
The other thing is again while its up to them what they host, i personally cant figuare out why with so restrictive rules anyone would use this over any other instance. with these rules out of instances that allow nsfw this will be by far the most restrictive. even out of those that allow nsfw, but are aiming to be general instances (not porn specific like this one)
k but thats not the only thing they are banning... they are also banning CNC which is by far the most popular flavor of porn for women... (among a large collection of other things)