This is fantastic advice, and I'm glad to know I'm not alone. It's honestly been quite difficult and frightening to try navigating this. I also feel like I was putting too much weight on my spouse to help me and that's not fair to them.
I realize I have to tell my PCP eventually. My last one I'd have told in a heartbeat, but the good ones get promoted out of my area because the backwoods aren't a priority. The new one is quite clinical and has his degree from a highly conservative/evangelical area and frankly scares me. I'll be looking anyway, I guess.
My "local" communities are all a little over an hour from me, from what I can tell. I'll try to find a way to get in touch with some of them in the meantime.
Thank you very much for sharing!
I'm in NJ, but not the progressive part of it. I guess Philly would be my closest friendly place to find anyone, and I definitely hear you about the "going official" issues in the US right now. It's one of the reasons I'm so frightened of telling the wrong people.
I don't know if I like the idea of DIY. I believe that it works, but I also know that I'm clumsy and forgetful enough to do something wrong. I also really need to talk to a therapist because I will definitely want my letters for surgery someday.
This is the first I've seen of either of these, so thank you! I'll have a look!