No - you get to choose between zero children and as many children as you can handle.
Sounds like you need to have a discussion with your parents and further explain your side of who you believe is capable of watching your daughter.
In the end, it's not their call; it's yours.
Are there certain things that your husband asks around the house that you sometimes relax on, or even dismiss?
If you do, then you've answered your question.
Your friends said you should write a book; you did. But writing a book doesn't necessarily mean publishing a book.
You have a very tough choice. Is it worth losing your relationship with your mother, even if it's in the short term?
NTA for wanting the wedding when you want it instead of when your dad does, but IMO definitely the AH for using your dad's insistance as your financial gain. You basically bribed your father.
If he wants to invite friends and family to a date where a wedding will not occur, that's on him to explain. You only have to explain what you and your future husband plan to do.
No matter what you do, it is entirely your choice, not hers. Don't allow her or anyone else persuade you otherwise.
NTA for telling her how you feel. However, there will be times in your life where you will do things for other people even though you don't want to. If you're willing to do crazy things for best friends (at 16 I suspect you've probably done it at least once by now), then there should no harm in taking your mom's arm and walk her down the aisle purely for her benefit, even if you personally think you may be asked to do it again later.
You should have bit your lip and said the appropriate goodbyes, but leaving early was probably the best choice.
It was your day, not theirs. It was completely inappropriate for what happened. But it happened all the same, so using decorum to your advantage would have allowed you to escape without having to explain yourself as much as you had to.
No. Absolutely not!
You have a family, and they take precedence. She deserves to have the wedding she wants, and you deserve to be able to say no if you can't make it, no matter what the reason.
Yes and no. You were NTA intentionally but it certainly turned out that way in the end.
That guilt is something you will have to deal with for a long time, but it is best kept with you and you alone. Some things are better left unsaid!
Budgets are important, and it's great that you are trying to keep your long term goals. If your boyfriend wants to join you in that, then he will adjust accordingly. If not, it shouldn't change what you want to do.