jadepagoda

joined 14 hours ago
[–] [email protected] 19 points 3 hours ago

I've always supported women's rights, but I don't consider myself a feminist. First and foremost, I can't support an ideology that considers women inherent victims (victims of the "patriarchy"). As a woman, I reject that notion and premise. If you put feminist principles and victim mentality characteristics side by side - they basically become a circle. I just don't find that a healthy mindset to have - I even find it a bit insulting honestly. Secondly, I don't support demonizing an entire gender (men). Thirdly, most of the feminists I've personally interacted with have been nothing but condescending, judgmental or straight up hostile because I chose to get married young, not pursue a career and focus on house and family, letting my husband lead, etc. when I have never been anything but supportive of career women, the stereotypical modern woman archetype, etc. I also don't appreciate being made into some sort of victim by them because of the lifestyle I chose to lead. To me feminism is a militant group. I've also noticed that in the last years feminists have started to adhere to a lot of right wing positions (anti-trans people, anti-sex work, sex negative, anti-pornography, etc.). Modern feminists tend to see women as a monolith, if you deviate from what they believe is right - you're the wrong kind of woman: which ironically enough is also what the anti-women crowd believe: I guess it's true what they say, if you go too left you'll only end up right and vice versa...

[–] [email protected] 14 points 6 hours ago

Depressing was my answer to the political question.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 7 hours ago

Trying but it’s difficult.

[–] [email protected] 46 points 7 hours ago (6 children)

The 1980s in my eyes was a stable, distinct decade but cynical and kind of drifting back in terms of society (the start of the war on counterculture, the hippies had cut off their hair, were born again Christians and advocating against drugs now). On the other hand the 1970s felt like a continuation of the 1960s - counterculture, chaotic, felt like we were headed to greener pastures. 1990s was in my opinion the peak of modern US and the last great American decade. End of the Cold War (the fear of nuclear war was real), the dawn of global technology, kept the good parts of the 1980s while getting rid or improving the bad parts. It all ended with 9/11. That was a societal shift that we never recovered from.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 7 hours ago (2 children)

Great culture, great climate, so much to see and do, amazing long-term visa, well connected to the rest of Asia and the world through Bangkok, close to world class healthcare (Singapore). Couldn’t ask for more.

[–] [email protected] 18 points 7 hours ago (8 children)

The US. Born and raised in Massachusetts. Husband is from NYC, studied in Boston 1965-1971. We got married in 1968, lived together in Boston until 1971 when we moved to NYC. Him and I have been living in Thailand for years now though, on a very advantageous 20-year visa (Thailand Elite Visa). Yes, 1 son born in 1971, who’s living in Switzerland. Depressing.

[–] [email protected] 18 points 8 hours ago* (last edited 8 hours ago) (1 children)

I got married at 16 in 1968. Had my first and only child in 1971. Focused on taking care of my family and house, practicing my hobbies and socializing. Doing what I loved.

[–] [email protected] 25 points 8 hours ago (1 children)

I don't play video games. I liked the format of Reddit and I like socializing, that's how I got into it. Just randomly came across it one day.

[–] [email protected] 47 points 10 hours ago (2 children)

Of all time, it's between Win 7 and XP.

[–] [email protected] 18 points 10 hours ago (3 children)

Couldn't tell you since I never worked, let alone at a mill.

[–] [email protected] 70 points 11 hours ago (1 children)

Sure. I found out about it from some mutual friends. Honestly my first reaction was, what a dumbass… if you’re going to cheat at least do it smartly and properly so that no soul knows about it. Funnily enough at first I was more disappointed in him for being stupid, I believed he was an intelligent man. I wanted to know every detail and he came clean about everything. Cut off all contact with that woman and put in the work to rebuild trust… a bit of a surveillance period. Either way, I knew I would never leave him just over a one time stray away; but of course he couldn’t know this. I appreciated he didn’t lie when confronted about it or try to victimize himself, justify it, make excuses, etc. He was very frank.

[–] [email protected] 21 points 11 hours ago (1 children)

Yes! Especially the Apple Music app… unlimited music completely at your disposal; such a dream. No, I don’t. Hopefully a lot cause I want to make it to 100! I’d bid farewell and end it preemptively, there’s nothing I hate or that sucks the joy out of things for me more than anticipation.

 

Just discovered Lemmy while browsing for Reddit alternatives, so let’s break the ice with this first post.

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