Ab so lutely!

Not sure where you are located, but you might be able to get a restraining order of some type, if you wanted that. I am US based, and I know there is a class of restraining orders called Anti-Harassment Orders, some of what he is doing to you could fall under the category of harassment. You would have to file the paperwork yourself at your local court, and there are filing fees, though there are also usually optional forms you can fill out if you are low income and if applicable they will waive the filing fee. If your town has multiple courts (in my town, we have a district court and a superior court), just call one and ask a clerk, they should be able to help you determine which court to file in. You'll want to include any documentation of his behavior, which can include texts, emails, or written testimony from other people (edit to add: photos, too, and if you don't know how to pull messages off your phone, take screen captures of the messages and submit those photos instead), though what is best would be anything that you could definitively prove came from him (like from a phone number or email that is registered in his name). If you are granted the order and he violates it, report that violation to your local PD every time, and continue to document as much as you can so it can be included in the reports. I would imagine if he gets arrested for his bullshit enough times, it may cause him to think twice about trying again.

I know some people don't want to take things like this to court, it can be a stressful experience, especially if the person you are getting an order against gets upset about it (usually being served the paperwork can exacerbate the behavior of the aggravating party). So I totally get it if you don't feel like taking it to court. Just felt like you may want to know that it's an option if you really need it. Sorry you are dealing with this :/

I hear you, part of life is accepting what we can't control. If he needs to step back for his own comfort, you need to let him. Fwiw, and this is just my opinion, you are dodging a major bullet by losing him. Seeing your state of mind just reminds me how gray my past relationships were and provide even more perspective to how much happier and fulfilled I feel now, after having made the decision to choose myself (happily single for 2 years now). That's not to say that breaking up wasn't hard, it was agony. But I do feel reborn, and much stronger and more confident in myself.

You can do it too. You are good enough and you are strong enough 💖

I hear you, I also feel things strongly and am my own worst critic, but just remember that self-flagellation isn't necessary.

I feel like a bad person and that I broke someone I care about so much

1. You made a mistake, but humans make mistakes. Learn from it, but don't let it crush you
2. You DID NOT break him, I get the vibe that, like another person commented, that he's got a strange red-pilled style kind of ideology around women and that he's in a fucked up situation that he built for himself. That is not your fault, and even more importantly it is not your responsibility to help him fix it.

We are texting about our feelings and opinions right now

I can't tell you what to do, but I STRONGLY suggest cutting all ties to him. I see the spiral he has put you in and nomatter what good qualities you might see in him, if he is making you hurt like this right now, it won't get better. I tried to make excuses, or have more patience, or be more supportive, more flexible, all the bullshit for men in my past. You know what it did? They settled into a comfortable place of knowing that they could push me on something and I would back off, "because relationships are about compromise". FUCK THAT NOISE. Listen to your heart, and recognize that he is the one responsible for your anguish right now. And I really really hope that you choose yourself over him ❤️

I’m kind of glad he hurted me at the end when I wanted to talk but he wanted to do sexual stuff because I feel used, maybe part of me thinks I’ll move past it quicker because of this?

YES, please follow this train of thought and give it some serious consideration. You have spent the last 4 days worrying about him, but when you wanted to express your concerns, what did he do? He brushed you off and wanted sex. Girl, he is just another asshole. He doesn't care about you even a quarter as much as you seem to care about him.

If I were you, I would break things off with him and never look back. And if you are open to the idea, I would try to just be single for a while. Like, years. Get in touch with yourself, and find a way to love yourself first ❤️ ✨️

Assuming local anesthetic was used to minimize the pain, a cut to the femoral artery might do it quickly. Google search says it only takes 3-5 minutes, sometimes less depending on the severity of the cut. Might be able to hasten things if you cut the femoral in each leg, too

Saw UniversalMonk being an ass one day, made this, and alllllllmost posted it, but for some reason didn't. I figure this is a good place for it C:

Fr, haha, thankfully he is a very patient boy! Only part he hates is his back legs (I call those his pants), I swear that hair is specially designed to dread together

No kidding, they must be related.

Mission accomplished

Fwiw, fuck Amazon, buy it from Punk with a Camera

What sort of standards are these oil tankers built to?