I don't agree with the "paying a premium for wireless backhaul" argument.
Here's why:
Many of the integrated mesh systems have a relatively inexpensive price-per-unit when purchased in 2 and 3-packs - often lower than individual access points.
Many of the integrated mesh systems often come with various bells-and-whistles that access points don't offer out-of-the-box. Content filtering, activity monitoring, control features, etc. Granted, some functionality may be subscription based, but they are nonetheless available.
Yes, you can accomplish some of it with additional hardware or software, but again, that is either adding to costs or complexity.
If you have multiple access points, you may discover that in order to have seamless roaming, you need to either purchase a separate hardware access point controller, or perhaps have a computer running 24/7 for the software version. This is true for the TP-Link EAP series access points, and possibly others. Integrated mesh systems have that functionality built right in.
Unless you're using table-top access points, then chances are you'll need a POE injector to power the access points (which aren't always included), or a separate POE switch -- yet another added expense.
And, on top of all of that, you'll need a separate router to use ordinary access points.
So, now that the price issue has been debunked. . .
There are some reasons you might choose access points over an integrated mesh-based system. . .
Pro-sumer access points (such as Ubiquiti/Unifi) can be very stable. They can run for months on end without requiring a restart to fix connectivity issues. You won't find that in consumer-grade equipment.
If your access points are powered by a POE switch, then on the rare occasion that there is a connectivity issue, you just power-cycle the POE switch, and the access points will re-start. With a mesh system, you'd end up running from room-to-room to power-cycle each device manually.
Pro-sumer access points tend to be better at handling large numbers of wireless clients, so if you have alot of wireless IoT or smart-home devices, you'll probably see more stability with them than you would with a consumer-grade integrated mesh system.
Integrated mesh systems use one of the units as a router. Some makes/models only offer 1Gb ports, so if you buy one of those units, you may be be locked in to 1GB speeds across your system.
In order to use all of the mesh system's integrated features, it will need to act as the primary router for your network. For most folks, this isn't a big deal, but there are scenarios where this isn't practical. Dual WAN (ISP) usage being one of them. If you bypass the routing functions of your integrated mesh system, it will essentially disable all of the bells-and-whistles that the system offers.
Phew. With all of that said. . .
Ubiquiti makes good stuff. Once you configure it, it is usually "set it, and forget it". I log into my Unifi access points via the free software console app every 4 to 6 months to check for firmware updates, but that's about it.
I hear good things about TP-Link access points. If you have more than one access point, and need seamless roaming, you'll either need a hardware-based controller, or a PC running 24/7 with their controller app. However, they do offer the ER7212PC router, which has a built-in POE switch and access point controller, so it's a good pairing, at least up to 1Gb ISP speeds. TP-Link is generally more affordable than Ubiquiti, but I think the Ubiquiti platform is more stable.
For trunk ports, the port on each end of the cable should be configured identically. So, if you set your ports on your router for Tagged 60 and 61, the port on the switch you're connecting it to should also be set for Tagged 60 and 61, and of course be configured as a Trunk port.
To assign a specific VLAN to the other ports on your switch:
Port Mode: Access
VLAN60, Untagged, PVID60
VLAN61, Untagged, PVID61
Anything plugged into those ports would be dumped onto the specificed VLAN, whether the device is VLAN-Aware or not.