Personally I'm partial to Big spoon. Holding her close, smelling her hair, oh and the ability to cause all kinds of mischief.

yum yum

Do you do anything for your own pleasure outside of work and if so, what?

Love to make her feel good - moaning probably means it's working ;)

For myself - probably the sides of my neck. It's not sexually loaded in the same way as other areas, but basically only romantic partners get to touch there.

Also quite sensitive for me, an unexpected brush there will instantly put goosebumps on the corresponding arm and be quite discomforting. Loving attention however.... <3

If I had to pick, I prefer submissive over dominant.

However, what I really want is an equal, a partner who knows what she wants and expresses that. Speak and I shall provide, less demanding want, more needing want - seeing, hearing, feeling her pleasure is like music to my soul. Loving, fulfilling and completing one another. Someone to take on the world with.

Corny as hell maybe, but a man can dream <3

I do, mostly because the anonymity is liberating. Not needing to worry about what folks who know me irl think about one thing or another. Odds are they wouldn't care, but still.

Almost went left, but even just based off the smile, middle is more my vibe.

Sometimes the potential consequences of doing something irl are just... not worth it.

For instance, risky public sex

Fantasy: ooh the thrill of being caught, what'll happen? Such adrenaline, such stakes 😈

Reality: Go to jail for indecent exposure, do not pass go, lose your job and be branded a sex offender in a government registry ☹️

For me, it started out with plain old imagination and porn videos. It took a tragically long time to discover literotica and audio.

At least for me, written erotica (sometimes with the assistance of AI), comics and audio give a much nicer experience with preference changing depending on mood. Part of that might be because it leaves a lot to the imagination.

Only time I use video porn nowadays is when wanting to just "get it over with quickly".

Lemmy's growing slowly and niche communities can take a bit to get started. It can often help if someone posts regularly for a bit to attract people.

IMO up & downvotes both have a purpose. Content can be disagreeable without being rule-breaking. I've certainly found downvotes a helpful indicator in the past, occasionally highlighting a poor formulation that caused one of my comments to be misunderstood.

A potential middle-ground might be disallowing downvotes on post, but permitting them on comments?

Either way, big thanks to you for hosting the site, and hope the donations situation gets resolved!