Neurodivergent folk are told in thousands of ways, small and large, that we are both too much and not enough at the same time. It is crazy making.
These are opinions and not very good ones.
The vast majority of the things that we are criticized for are not actually requirements. We are mostly criticized for things that are the optional extras that makes the critical person feel comfortable. If it is not their job to make you comfortable, then it is not your job to make them comfortable.
All that we have to do in life is to be Perfectly Fine Human Beings.
A Perfectly Fine Human Being:
~ Keeps themselves and their environment clean enough not to negatively impact someone else’s health.
~ Obeys the civil law. Read it for yourself.
~ Does not purposely aggravate others. That is just self-preservation.
~ Does their share and only their share. Get that spelled out in the beginning and preferably in writing.
~ Honors any contract freely entered into. If it isn’t in the contract you are not responsible. Read the contract.
~ Keeps themselves to themselves. Peopling is optional, but if you choose to people you have implicitly agreed to play by their rules.
~ Quietly walks away from people and situations that they find unhelpful or unhealthy.
This is all it Takes to be a Perfectly Fine Human Being just as you are. Every thing beyond this is extra and completely optional.
I’ve been at this neurodivergent thing for 51 years (diagnosed as dyslexic in 1972 and autistic in 2021) and have cultivated a wonderful group of fellow neurodivergent folks. The one thing that makes the single biggest improvement in our lives is learning to love our quirks. Fly, be free to be your quirky, adorkable selves. Being adorkable is adorable.
I like that neurodivergence is a great big broad category. Each individual type represents a very small population that is easy to ignore and scapegoat. Adding up the huge variety of neurodiversity, genetic and acquired, gives us enough numbers to get something done.
I am dyslexic, autistic and bipolar. Not one of these groups have enough numbers on there own to effect change. The same accommodations that I need to function with one issue are the same accommodations I need to deal with them all, adequate education, adequate health care, adequate tools & technology, adequate shelter, adequate nutrition, and an adequately civil society. Just like every other human on the planet.
We need to speak with one voice. How neurodivergence is dealt with is inadequate for all of us.