The field I work in has a variety of background checks for clients... so for a while until I decide to get new identification documents my deadname will float about... plus my family don't know about the changing name yet.
Jimbob0i0
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Thank you ❤️
Hope it goes well for you!
Have an introductory session with a therapist on Thursday now...
Important context here, my partner is a trans woman herself so understands much of my current headspace. She's also my dominant in a dynamic, the caging was more linked to that at first. We share a lot of our clothing these days, we're the same size in that... she's just taller than me. I've been dressing femme for a few months now after initially coming out as fluid... that's normal to us...
Don't... the comments by our (UK) minsters yesterday were appalling and very concerning...
The past week has been quite the mix of highs and lows.
Couple of rough patches with partner.
Having a very affirming experience in Ann Summers, getting my first lingerie under her guidance.
Having my referral to the gender identity clinic confirmed.
Fucker Carlson streams his show on twitter, since he was fired from having his bullshit platformed on Fox.
I keep my nails short, preference of my partner.
I love having them painted though, and there's a distinct difference in how I feel when they need redoing, and having them pretty.
My girlfriend pretty much shoved me into the fitting rooms the first time I went to buy a skirt... I was so very nervous showing the gal on the door the one item to try on.
Fast forward a bit and I had a lovely experience at the Levi store ... was looking for a new pair of jeans for a holiday. As I was looking at the various cuts I was unsure wear to pick up, as I wanted something more form fitting. My partner said that the female cut has very little crotch area though, so potentially an issue there... so was looking in the men's section.
Assistant in the store came over and offered help. I somewhat shyly mentioned that I was looking for someone a little tighter on the skin, and mentioned "I have a masc pair already" ... their eyes pretty much lit up "Well you won't find what you want on this side of the store" and pretty much dragged me over to the women's section, and started pulling bits off the shelf and holding them up to me.
"Well this is pretty much the equivalent of a mens 34 waist, what do you wear normally?"
"Well my femme size in my clothing is usually a 16..."
Again a slight grin... before rushing me over to the cubicles to try on the items they picked out...
A very good eye they had... picked out a pair so comfy and I felt really good in. Was also just such an affirming experience.
Which is also fair as the lines can get very blurred dependant on the definitions in play...
Trans/NB/Fluid/queer are all very closely related after all and people can identify with all of these.
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Previous name will be well known...
Agreed with my leadership that I'd put a quick heads up on Slack today in my team channel that my name has changed to avoid surprising anyone Monday, and to give the weekend for anyone to digest.
Response was positive so here's hoping no issues as work goes next week.