I'm going to use three examples.

1. Reddit, High Moderation the absolute worst: I've seen many people including myself get wrongfully banned from that website, It has the strongest moderation possible that feels a bit authoritarian. It tracks your device with an ID and your IP albeit for 100 days. I've seen people getting banned because they were protesting against "ICE" as "Violence" I've known people getting banned on r/suicidewatch because when someone reports you on Reddit sometimes there's a bot saying "Hey, we are here for you" which is again crazy ironic that they don't have a team handling these sort of issues, not that it's their job to do so but due to Reddit's aggression with Bots and Filters it feels like hell.

I posted a NSFW themed meme on an NSFW community and within seconds the post was removed due to Reddit's filters leading with a permanent ban, What are Reddit's filters and what classifies as a "filter" who knows. I sent an appeal saying that my alt got banned wrongly (same email) but I know that they won't bother to check. Leaving someone with no choice other to start clean again which is against their rules as a Ban Evasion however I still believe it was a wrong decision so I'm worthy of another chance.

You can argue after Reddit's controversies with r/the_donald and a subreddit where there were people literally dying on camera, Reddit enforced harsher rules which is understandable, but what they still don't understand is that in case there's a mistake you need to have better ways of communicating with an actual person, the appeal message is 250 Characters long and that's it. There are literal Nazis there who haven't been banned but I did just because of a meme.

2. Lemmy, The Perfect Middle Ground: This website pretty much is in line with what I believe, that there should be moderation but without any stupid filters, karma requirements and power tripping mods, Is it because it's a much smaller community than reddit? Maybe. Will the rules ever change if Lemmy gets much more popular, Who knows?

3. 4Chan. The wild west: Almost to zero moderation, which to me is a bad thing because there will be people who will abuse that system and post illegal stuff and be borderline mental, I don't think I need to say more about that website.

To be fair there's still moderation, for example after the GamerGate drama posts on /v/ about specific people or e-celebrities is prohibited.

Basically, I've talked about this story before, I had an account with almost 100k karma, I liked participating posting high quality stuff. I think it's nice to be part of a community.

Then I posted an NSFW meme in an NSFW subreddit that triggered a bot and said "Your Post was Removed by Reddit's filters" and I thought, Welp it's fine I'll try to reupload it another time, I refreshed the browser and boom, I was permanently banned for absolutely no reason.

I don't know what the bot picked up since I literally didn't use a bad word, I didn't even think about appealing the ban because it doesn't like almost ever get checked by actual human beings, It's just a bot saying "No, we believe your ban was fair even though we didn't check it sorry"

So what now?

Welp Reddit mostly has a 100 Day IP policy, meaning they store your latest IP you got banned with or the one you signed up, for 100 days. Even though making a new account is considered a ban evasion, It's them sort of unofficially wink wink giving you another chance.

I do think their system is harsh because again Reddit is too big and whoever decided that it was a good idea to have an appeal system that doesn't get checked by human beings, wasn't the smartest guy. I think the proper appeal system would be to have some sort of a ticket and speak to a Reddit admin even after weeks, but to be fair It's one of the biggest community centered social media so I'm not sure how that could work, but hey maybe just saying don't ban people permanently unless for really messed up stuff, just saying.

Since then, I have changed my network I went on a new program with my ISP, not because of the ban but I basically upgraded my old connection, I have a dynamic IP and I thought why not, I've cleared my cookies, I've formatted my PC and technically, I'm in the clear already, however I haven't made a new account yet.

I might go back

Yeah eventually I will, don't get me wrong I do like Lemmy it doesn't have the bullshit filters Reddit has, with Reddit I always had this feeling that if I'm too active today I might trigger a bot that thinks I'm spamming so I always had this feeling that if I do something out of the norm I'll be banned for whatever reason, I've seen people getting banned for saying "Fuck ICE" so yeah.

I am a free speech absolutist, I think people should talk about their views. there were a couple of people on r/askconservative that were chill and r/politicalcompassmemes was mostly filled with edgy fascists but to be fair it was fun, because you got to read different views and I admire that in a way.

I do think there should be moderation, as is on Lemmy. I believe without moderation you could have people trying to maliciously "abuse" the system, but Reddit has to cut the bullshit bots that just wrongly flag your messages, so far with Lemmy it's much smoother but it's not as populated which is a big issue for me because with Reddit I used many niche subreddits.

So will I go back on Reddit? Probably yeah, am I rushing though? No.

I'm quite younger so I wasn't around that format war but depends on who you ask you get different responses.

This might make seem like a douche but so be it. I hate "ur" I hate "hi" basically anything that doesn't seem like it's written by a human being I hate it. I lose interest on Hinge when I receive a "Hiiiii"

It's petty yes but I don't believe I'm on a high horse.

(Basically a response I made on a community, feel like it belongs here too)

I think toxic podcasts have a big influence on young men, especially those who grew up without strong father figures. My own dad wasn’t perfect (I joke a bit about it on my profile), and many of us went through that risky “2015 phase” of consuming unhealthy online content.

What many politicians and advocates on the left often overlook is that toxic masculinity isn’t solved by telling men to be “less masculine.” You can actually counter unhealthy masculinity with healthy masculinity. Instead of shaming men, we should be teaching a better version of manhood one that includes therapy, emotional intelligence, and being able to talk honestly about what’s going on inside.

As corny as it sounds there’s a reason when there’s a bad take by a misinformed feminist calling all men evil on twitter ganders a response like “This is why men turn right” and sure while that stuff doesn’t work on me anymore, It’s not 2015-2016 there’s still some vulnerable people that unfortunately fall for it, does that mean though that the feminist is wrong in her views? Not really, but I’m not talking about myself I’m talking about a lot of men that do fall for it.

Most working-class men who grind through 9–5 jobs, going from shift to shift, are worried about affordability and stability. If someone comes along and says “I’m going to make your life easier,” that’s who they’ll vote for even if it’s Trump. You can call them naïve or say the leopards ate their face or whatever , but the reality is that many of these men are desperate for change. And they’ll keep voting for whoever promises that change. When society pushes these men aside or dismisses them, some end up looking for someone to blame. That’s when you get people saying, “Women are the reason my life is hard,” or “Jews control everything.”

Of course, some people are genuinely racist or sexist, and there will always be trolls who just want attention. But why do those trolls exist in the first place? Often it’s because they feel insignificant, and attaching themselves to extreme movements gives them a sense of identity and purpose they don’t have otherwise.