FlowerTree

Usually, different system members have different appearances. Sometimes, different system members may have different bodies to each other-- even as far as having different gender or species. But with only one physical body, it's hard to represent or tell every members with the same body in physical space. So, how does your system handle that?

How do you tell apart or represent different system members in physical space? Do you only differentiate in headspace-- each members' physical form exist in headspace while the real life self remains the same regardless of who's fronting. Maybe you use subtle cues like arm ring color or necklace. Or maybe you use different clothes for different headmates-- though that would be difficult if you switch front while being outside.

Perhaps it's the different behavior like walking style, gestures, or manners. Or, just through the different personality each system members may have while fronting.

For us at least, we don't differentiate that much physically-- we like to think our body is separate from our headspace identity so it doesn't need to match our headspace form. We're also closeted about being plural, so we don't try to cue the fact we are more than one person.

[Content Warning: mentions of transphobia]

Long story short, our persecutor have been trying to repress our transfem host, to the point where she rarely fronted nowadays. Maybe it was internalized transphobia, which sometimes caused us quite a problem.

While she's not the only transfem in our system, I couldn't help but to feel bad that she might felt unwelcome here, in her only safe space. She's also pretty empty and unresponsive ever since she started to disappear.

ALT TEXT:

• Panel 1: A person with the text "Singular 'they'" written on them smiling with open arms.
• Panel 2: "Singular 'They'" beaten up by others who said, "Singular they is ungrammatical. It's too confusing," "How can anyone use plural pronouns for singular," and "Every pronoun should only have one purpose."
• Panel 3: "You" hiding from the mob who was beating "Singular 'They'"
• Panel 4: "German 'Sie'" hiding with even more fear next to "You"

Not that I hated it. It's actually nostalgic seeing all the meme templates I grew up with once more.

ALT TEXT: An image of a velociraptor contemplating with the caption: why are we posting old memes? Well, if Lemmy feels like old internet forums, then the memes must also match

Hi, I'm Jasmine.

This post is a bit of a vent, but I also genuinely need help and comfort. I hope this is appropriate to talk about here and that I don't ruin the vibe of this community too much.

I'm tired with myself repressing my gender. I'm tired with me telling myself maybe I can live happily as a boy, maybe I can convince myself, or maybe this is all fake somehow. I feel like I'm not meant to be a girl, that I am meant to be a boy, and that I shouldn't transition because it's against my cultures. And my internalized transphobia sometimes made me think like a bigot when given the chance.

I've done my best to avoid lashing my internalized transphobia to anyone, even online, and I'll continue to do my best. I'll continue to do my best to support trans people, but ironically it's hard for me to support myself.

I know this all sounds so negative, but it's been eating away at my mental health. I need help.

I just wanted someone to reassure me that it's okay for me to transition and that there is nothing wrong with being transgender. I would also greatly appreciate sites and resources for trans people to reassure me that it's okay to be trans.

ALT: Drake disagree-agree meme with drake disagreeing to "Using Duolingo to learn a new language" and him agreeing to "Using Duolingo for gender euphoria" while showing a screenshot of Duolingo asking its user to translate "I am a woman" to French.

I can't believe that after weeks of dysphoria and me trying to repress who I am, this is the one thing that broke me into gender euphoria. Strange how that happens.

This post is mostly intented for plural systems, but I'm open to anyone responding as well, even if you aren't plural. It's nice to hear from another perspective outside our community.

When you have more than one selves within the same body, it's fair to say that the pronoun "I" may not be enough sometimes. After all, if you share your body with more than one selves, some of the things your body does would technically be done by all of your selves.

For example, as a plural system myself, whenever I go anywhere, technically all my headmates (or another selves) will also go with me since we share the same body. If the body goes somewhere, everyone goes along with it. With that, some stuff about us can't be described with just "I." Think of how I've been using "we," "us," and "our" throughout this post.

So, if you're plural yourself, do you also use plural pronouns the same way we do? When do you use "we" to describe yourself? And when do you use "I" to describe yourself?

For me at least, I usually use singular pronouns for stuff like opinions, since every one of us have differing opinions (even if we share the same body!). For example, I am writing most of this text alone, so I use singular first person.

But, for stuff all of us agree on, stuff written by more than one headmates, or stuff involving multiple headmates, I often use plural pronouns like "we" since it involves more than one of us. I also use we for the more formal stuff. In a way, it's kind of like using royal/formal we.

Honestly, being more than one in the same body presents a lot of weird and interesting quirks, and this is just one of them.

And, if you're not plural or don't understand what's going on here (that's understandable), how often do you use royal/formal we to describe yourself? If you're the sole moderator of a community on lemmy or someplace else, do you use "we" for moderator announcements to sound more formal?

Hello everyone! This is the first time I've ever uploaded my art online. I know it's not the best, but I tried. I never really draw anything before and it took me quite a while to finish this.

I've been struggling with a lack of motivation lately. I always feel too demotivated to ever finish anything. And before I share my creation online, I always feel anxious and scared that I'll mess up or annoy someone. But I wanted to push through all that and share this to all of you!

This image represents how I feel sometimes. Staying in bed, mildly bored and apathetic. I don't have a name for the character or anything, this is more of a test art.

For context

Civet Cat Coffee, otherwise known as Luwak Coffee, is made out of the poop of a civet cat that was fed with coffee. Without their poop, the coffee wouldn't exist, hence the meme.

ALT TEXT: Everytime I pooped (followed by an image of a civet cat), you get coffee. Imagine the entire luwak coffee industry collapsing because these MFs don't poop for three days.

cross-posted from: https://pawb.social/post/196381

ALT: A text that said "How I wish HRT actually works." Below that is an image of an anime character in his human form with the caption "Before HRT." Next to that is a tanuki-like anime girl, Michiru Kagemori, with the caption "After HRT."