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submitted 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) by DrXenomorph@lemmy.world to c/dating@lemmy.world

Third date went great (thanks to everyones advice in my previous post) however I offered a fourth date to a jazz bar Saturday however forgot valentines day can make reservations hard (didn't know the palce did reservations). And I told her I was thinking that place before i found out about reservations. Or try finding another live music place since she loves all live music not just jazz.

Should I resort to something like a paintwork shop (even though the theme is valentines and we aren't a couple yet)?

I'm still learning the ropes here and any advice would be very helpfu.

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[-] DrXenomorph@lemmy.world 1 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago)

Being myself is what I’ve been trying and so far seems to be good. Like she asked if my humor is how I flirt and I said yes. And she wasn’t sure if I was interested or trying to be a friend but I assured her I’m interested (assuming it’s good too since she still talks with me). Because to me I love making others laugh and humors always helped me and I’d rather be my goofy self than the charsmatic flirter I’m really not.

Getting this far in dating for the first time too is just very nerve racking lol

[-] DrXenomorph@lemmy.world 1 points 6 days ago

A few days after the plan for third date we talked and I did ask if she’d like to get lunch and she said yeah however she told me she has her moms bday late afternoon (not sure if that means good cuz she wants to go out still in morning or bad cuz she doesn’t want to be out longer)

As for dressing I want to look good but not sure if my casual style would be good for the date cuz someone said “oh you should wear an adult shirt not flannel”

[-] DrXenomorph@lemmy.world 1 points 6 days ago

That’s good to know, I thought like you had to be fully confiedent but I agree being honest about not being sure about the etiquette is a good move.

And as for walking to the door would I be like “if you’d like I can walk you to the door”?

Also if I want to try holding her hand say if we cross the street should I nonchalantly stick it out?

[-] DrXenomorph@lemmy.world 1 points 6 days ago

It does I’m just both excited and nervous though Cindy I’ve never gotten this far lol.

And I’m trying to be optimistic on the I believe good signs like her telling some friends she found someone she vibes with, saying hopefully I can pick her up on future dates, etc. (I feel I might be overthinking this as good)

[-] DrXenomorph@lemmy.world 3 points 1 week ago

lol they are those new balance trainers I thought they were suede

[-] DrXenomorph@lemmy.world 1 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

Yup pretty much. We’ve been texting since last month and say things like “well hopefully we can flirt more often” or “hopefully we can learn more about each other” and I’m worried I’ll screw up despite the hints she would still like to continue further

[-] DrXenomorph@lemmy.world 1 points 1 week ago

What if she lives in an apartment? Buzz her down?

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submitted 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) by DrXenomorph@lemmy.world to c/dating@lemmy.world

I’ve [28M] never been pass the first date, but some how made it to date three. I really want this to go well

I offered to pick her up and she said yes but I’m not sure what the etiquette is

When I pick her up do I open car door from inside, let her open it, or get out when I see her (give her a hug too? Not sure cuz first date we shook hands and second held hands for a little bit but didn’t hug or shake hands after that date) then open the door?

What about when I drop her off? Do I walk up with her and possibly give a hug? And can instead of that wait within 24 hours thing if things went well can I tell her I’d like to see her again then?

Also would new balance gym shoes be fine for an art gallery date? What about jeans and a flannel shirt?

DrXenomorph

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