s'all good, that relationship was worth a shot. back to default, gonna try to just focus on hobbies & friends & organizing.

speaking of politics ive been grillpilling to perhaps a hedonistic/cowardly degree in terms of being checked out of the Iran situation. how tf do yall keep up in the news megathread? i always just get information overload especially in weeks where decades happen. i don't really have a good go-to way to keep up with continuously breaking news, my podcast head days are mostly behind me and corporate media makes me want to puke, plus neither are good really for continuously/rapidly developing situations. i know some of yall have like curated feeds or something? I just never figured out how that shit all works i can be a borderline boomer abt tech shit.

i be looping i rlly want to stay at your house from cyberpunk everytime im hung up on a baddie w/ trust issues (i.e. this describes every baddie i have ever loved also i.e. my most recent relationship is truly cooked for now, RIP)

i want to complain about my job in enough detail that it’s an actual good vent but not so much that my job is identifiable, the shitposting depressed wage slave dilemma

Porky measures your value according to completely anti-human & anti-life metrics, holding yourself to his standards when you think & talk about your self worth does yourself a disservice, as well as the people around you. You are better than the wretched capitalist system. Also....

I’m not lazy, I’m just incompetent. Not my fault everyone is just better than me, I try but someone beats me every time…and even if I was the only one, porky would just not hire me because why would he hire a loser like me?

Porky will literally hire his incompetent failnephew without question or vetting, just because this shit is not a reflection of your or anyone else's intrinsic value, trust.

@[email protected] the worldbuilding ideas would be for a setting ive worked on on and off for years (industrialized fantasy with weird fiction and communist themes) so doing actual serious work on it would involve wading through/decoding my scattered, nerodivergent-ass google docs sadly. just the thought of it gives me anxiety!! but the ideas i was having were for big picture creation myth and cosmology and metaphysics shit, which does lend itself more to vaguery & brain vomit so maybe i should give it a whirl anyway

it's funny, you and i are kind of the opposite - the type of details you stress over w/ worldbuilding is the kind of shit i really struggle with. whenever i think about realistic logistics around climate, geography, etc on a micro level, my brain derobes itself of its burdensome, chafing wrinkles and my eyes lose their spark and i become

intrusive thoughts are such a nightmare, i feel for you cousin. i wish people who didn't experience them understood the sudden waterfall of shame/horror that come with them.

i can't speak to your therapy comment without knowing specifics, but i do feel like stuff that's too exclusively CBT-focused can result in yeah, just feeling like you're better at stuffing things & being Just OK Enough To Work for the Machine. not sure if that's your situation but could be something to consider!

good luck!! assuming it's with someone new, remember that a first date is - fundamentally - just hanging out with a new person in a slightly different context, vibing out whether there's romantic potential is a secondary background thing. and as far as the second part, you're trying to get a read on them for compatibility as much as they are with you! hope that takes the pressure off (though i know social anxiety doesn't obey reason in a 1:1 way)

Need a new collection of hobbies and hyperfixations to shitpost about so that people can't ID me from my old account - looking for maybe a solid half-dozen (6). Suggestions???

Preferably nothing involving physical coordination since I'm a depressed nerd & also nothing math-like because I'm more of an Actual Art Degree nerd than a STEM nerd

I was a religious cushvlog watcher and you could kinda see Matt become more and more Chinapilled in real time. idk if he ever made it all the way way to "China is genuinely socialist," but I also think that's the kind of question Matt would probably have written off as unanswerable theorycrafting that people ruminate endlessly on mostly online - or otherwise in isolation - which they mistake for actually doing politics (I don't really have an opinion on whether that last part is right or wrong, just educated guessing where he'd be at during the later cushvlogs era).

I periodically get the fantasy worldbuilding itch and honestly it's more annoying than anything. Mostly because I don't write want to write a fantasy novel (and don't write fantasy-as-such for my larger creative projects in general), and realistically working full time combined with the active communist lifestyle wouldn't make a d&d group feasible, my main friend group I'd recruit from for such a thing would be people with the same issue schedule-wise.

Maybe I'll pick my d&d hobby back up if I make it to retirement