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submitted 2 years ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

Hey! 😋

So I'm super awkward, and anxious! (ADHD Autisic) And I'm really hoping I could get some help finding a casual way to ask someone out to a concert or dinner without creating the assumption that I'm paying for both tickets/meals.

Any ideas other then just bluntly asking to go Dutch?

[-] [email protected] 18 points 2 years ago

I picked up a sport this year. People are surprisingly friendly.

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submitted 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

This week’s prompt from the Marxist Men's Lib community is:

“Learning to wear a mask (that word already embedded in the term “masculinity”) is the first lesson in patriarchal masculinity that a boy learns. He learns that his core feelings cannot be expressed if they do not conform to the acceptable behaviors sexism defines as male. Asked to give up the true self in order to realize the patriarchal ideal, boys learn self-betrayal early and are rewarded for these acts of soul murder.”

― bell hooks, The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love

Rebuttal: All people mask. We mask because we know our emotions can't always take priority, and being an adult means making room for, and having consideration for others. There's nothing shameful in this.

"Patriarchy" is not a reason to deminsish, and shame men for being stoic.

[-] [email protected] 9 points 2 years ago

I appreciate the fuck out of Hexbear. Over the past few years I've seen a massive ideological shift in a bunch of communities I use to enjoy. Like feminist communities shifted from egalitarian/humanist perspectives towards more bigioted attitudes, people stopped caring about confronting their own biases, and instead try to justify them, because "the patriarchy". I've encountered these people in real life. I once got in an argument with another nonbinary with them telling me "You need to understand the world sees you as a white male".

I see people getting called white supremace for calling out racism.

Sorry I know this is a ramble, still processing.

Anyways, now that I see the fingerprints of Marxism I can just call it out.

[-] [email protected] 25 points 2 years ago

I appreciate the explanation! These communities are interesting.

[-] [email protected] 9 points 2 years ago

Spoken like someone that's never seen a woman's restroom.

[-] [email protected] 15 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

me not knowing how to bring up bad news

[-] [email protected] 18 points 2 years ago

I get the impression Google is trying to transition Maps into a social media platform.

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bE a mAn! (lemmy.dbzer0.com)
submitted 2 years ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

Feel free to post any examples of when you've been told to man up.

[-] [email protected] 60 points 2 years ago

My dad broke up with his girlfriend, and was telling me this plan about fucking with her disability benefits, because she had gone for plastic surgery or some shit. He found this out from stalking her call logs.

I remember just pacing back and forward in my apartment trying to reason with him on the phone. "Dad, you can't do this kind of stuff.."

I talked him down, told him I loved him, and will always love him.

I don't know if it was the next day, but the next time we spoke on the phone he went right back into the same mindset. I couldn't handle it. Sometime after the call I sent a pretty harsh message that I didn't want to be involved with him. Haven't spoken to him since.

[-] [email protected] 22 points 2 years ago

Oh I completely understand, that's why I made the responsible choice to sterilize myself.

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Fuck Some Parents (lemmy.dbzer0.com)
submitted 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

Like holy fuck do you not hear your kid screaming? Do you not have consideration for other fucking people? Or are you just so fucking useless you have zero ability to parent your child? I'm assuming the latter.

Fuck people.

I'm chilling in a hotel hottub, and there's a kid in the pool just screaming, fucking just screaming on and off at the top of their lungs, the sound just echoing off all the tile, it's fucking horrible, holy fuck.

Ughh, just really needed to vent that. Thank you. And fucking thank god they just left.

Fuck I'm greatful I don't have kids.

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New group of kids started floating around the hot tub bumping into me 😑 Asked them to stop, and then had to speak to their parents about it.

[-] [email protected] 24 points 2 years ago

So I don't know or care enough to go trying to understand and quote books, but here's a shia forum full of people refering to age 9 sexual maturity for girls.

https://www.shiachat.com/forum/topic/235044362-what-is-the-exact-minimum-age-for-have-sex/

[-] [email protected] 10 points 2 years ago

Someone call the cops people are expressing opinions

[-] [email protected] 10 points 2 years ago

While consummating marriage with Aisha is indefensible, it is also on bar with religions and historical realities.

Why call it indefensible, and then go onto defend it?

[-] [email protected] 29 points 2 years ago

Didn't the Prophet Muhammad like... fuck a 12 year old?

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