I was pointing out that out of the three that we have here, the .ml one has the least problems. Maybe it isn't perfect but the .zip one is run by a transphobia apologist who literally did it in this community, and the .world one is crawling with with transphobes and transphobia apologists.
Maybe lemmy.ml as an instance isn't super great, I can understand that. I know about the controversy with Nutomic. I just wanted to suggest an alternative to using the one on lemmy.zip and I don't think it's a great idea to use the one on lemmy.world because lemmy.world as an instance has a transphobia problem among their userbase, and it's really bad to be there as someone openly trans or visibly queer.
I changed my post not to recommend lemmy.ml specifically, and instead be about the event itself without offering any recommendations of alternatives specifically. What matters most is that people here know about this and don't continue using a community run by a transphobia apologist.
When you said you were on truth social I knew exactly the kind of person you are. It's not surprising that you get called a Nazi and a Maga often, you share very similar beliefs with them. Also "You have the right to pretend to be whoever you want to be" fuck you, I'm not pretending, none of us are pretending. This is what I'm talking about when I say thinly veiled transphobia and denial of our identities. We aren't pretending to be women, we ARE women, trans women are women. If you can't accept that, regardless of how you self-proclaim yourself or how nice you claim to be or support us, you are a transphobe, because you are refusing to accept us for who we are, and instead try to push and insist that we are something we are not and are just pretending. Go fuck off.