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[–] [email protected] 4 points 7 months ago

Love this post! You have such a fun playful style of writing and it's a style that I never see on like, reddit for instance. Emojis are really looked down on there and language is expected to be pretty standardized. I love how much fun u have w it :3

Thanks for sharing your story! :) My partner was binary trans for years before they came out as nonbinary, which far more matches their identity.

I myself thought that binary trans was the only option when I was in high school so I pushed that egg deep down down down until my early 30s when it cracked open. When I first was thinking about transitioning, the idea of fully going fem just didn't feel right for me. I feel so grateful to live in a s o c i e t y where it's more welcomed than in the past.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 10 months ago

This is wonderful, though I feel like "I don't feel super comfortable in my body" as a pre-cursor to nonbinary identity is a narrow view. I didn't experience much gender dysphoria before transitioning, but I experience a hell of a lot of gender euphoria when exploring my nb side.

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submitted 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]
 

https://caiquirk.com

My wonderful partner Cai Quirk recently released a new book on themes of finding unique personal narratives for queer people.

In a world that doesn't have many stories for gender-nonconforming individuals to help find themselves, I think their work has potential to help many.

Cai's photography and writing delves deep into our collective connection with nature to pull out new stories from the ever-generative wellspring of life that is all around us.

I adore them and am so proud of this accomplishment, and would ask for you to please support them by purchasing a copy of their book if their work speaks to you!

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

It's an awesome feeling to come to accept! I know many trans individuals who started off going hard binary trans, and then settling on something more in the genderfluid or nonbinary spectrum. I think it feels more right for some people to go full binary trans in the beginning in situations in which they have a part of themselves that has been heavily repressed by society. After they've "got it out of their system" so to speak, some people realize that they're actually not always one or the other gender.

It's an experience that some relate to and some don't. Congratulations on coming to a deeper understanding of yourself! <3

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

I'm NB but I've been on hormones for almost 2 years and have definitely changed a lot while working for my current company. I've been with the company from when it was a 15 person startup to being a 200 person entrenched behemoth, and it's pretty much been a great experience all the way. Granted, almost no-one uses my pronouns(Maybe 2 or 3 people in the company), however they are listed in my Slack profile, I have only ever verbally told my team them a single time, and I haven't pushed since then. The more important thing to me is that I'm seen as a human being, which I feel like I am. My co-workers for sure think I'm weird(for many reasons), but they also accept me and appreciate my weirdness, even celebrating it in some cases.

I think it's as good as can be expected. Just the fact that the company loosely encourages employees to list pronouns in their Slack profile is a big win for me.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

It can help immensely to have a support network of individuals that you feel safe around to explore your identity with.

I had a group of online friends, mostly non-gender-confirming, when I opened up, and that I'm not sure I would've done it without them.

If you're not in that privileged position, you can always just start to explore your identity on your own, and intentionally visiting spaces where queer and non-gender confirming individuals frequent with the intent of making friends if that feels right.

One of the simplest ways you could start would be painting your finger nails, or getting your ears pierced. Whatever feels right.

The more you outwardly express your inner self, the more you'll attract others that align with you.

Build it and they will come!

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Ah nice! Probably the same bundle I got it in.

 
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[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

I enjoyed playing this with my partner!

It's also available on Itch: https://purplesloth.itch.io/whats-your-gender

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Televising my gender (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]
 

I gutted an old CRTV, replaced the screen with tinted 1-way glass, filled it with foam and a hard hat to be comfy, and spray-painted tf out of it

but maybe the real treasure was the gender we met along the way