Xone I use with the official xbox wireless controller adapter but xpadneo for Bluetooth Xbox connections.

Idk if it’s the solution to your problem but I install xpadneo and never have issues.

Steppers Online or McMaster-Carr is where I typically start.

I didn’t even know that was a thing! I understand your frustration now

I assume you mean micro-b? If so, Infinite Cables has options.

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