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I took a trip to Colorado this summer and it was the first time in my life I ever really left the south. It just blew my fucking mind. I love where I'm from, but there's just so much fucked up shit that I just thought was how it was. I'm a white cishet, so I'm not vulnerable to the worst of the south, but it absolutely blew my mind seeing somewhere that you didn't just have a background level of distressing shit in view at all times. The most striking thing was how there weren't any ruins around. You get used to seeing overgrown, dilapidated buildings dotting the side of the road pretty much everywhere you go. It was wild to me how rare that was, comparatively, once you get to the other side of Texas. There's a million other things, but honestly I didn't spend enough time there to really know if all of them are the norm or if I'm just making shit up. As shitty as I feel saying it, it would also be nice to try dating somewhere there weren't quite so many ""country"" girls.

My only regret would be leaving behind all my friends and family. That's just such an insane leap to me, and I have no faith that I'd be able to find new friends elsewhere now that I'm out of college. I know I'm experiencing a massively cliche impulse and all that, and that there's lots of problems that will follow you wherever you move, but how do I know if I'm insane or not? Does anybody have advice for trying to find a job somewhere you don't live? I'm sick of all these damn pine trees.

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[–] [email protected] 6 points 11 months ago

I think before moving you should try to see another corner of the country. All of America has problems but they are all a little different. Some are easier to live with than others.

From the south and went to Colorado? I would say try the opposite, go towards the northeast, or you could try my home state of Michigan. Plenty of sites to see too, get a national park pass and you could camp in several states!

[–] [email protected] 6 points 10 months ago

I love the south but the apartheid against black people there makes me want to do things that would shorten my life span. ak47

Also yes country girls are the worst.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 11 months ago

leaving behind all my friends and family

This is the fukken killer. It's really hard and you're going to have to put in effort once you get to where you're going to break out of your bubble, but I wish you luck all the same. For finding work in another state, it's easier than its ever been, since every HR department in existence has learned how to use Zoom - hell I got my current job over the phone, no video conferencing required. Just apply to a lot of jobs on every job search website you can in your free time, and expect it to take a while.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 11 months ago (6 children)

I’m sick of people condemning the south like they have any fucking idea about it.

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 10 months ago

I have no faith that I'd be able to find new friends elsewhere now that I'm out of college

If you want to do a masters degree: Norway, Switzerland and Iceland have free universities for everyone who applies. You'll even find English-spoken programmes. Those universities are also often the way to very cheap housing.

Just a suggestion, in case you'd be open to move even further.

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