i've noticed a number of accounts which were fairly active in this community suddenly go dark recently:

  1. @kivihiili@lemmy.blahaj.zone deleted their account about 6 days ago
  2. @katiecakes@lemmy.blahaj.zone deleted her account about 7 hours ago (less than a day after a friendly back-and-forth comment chain with me)
  3. at some point in the last 24 hours, another formerly very active user deleted pretty much her entire post/comment history from the past six months, which was mostly posts and comments here and on !trans_joy@lemmy.blahaj.zone . (not tagging here because her account is still up, even if mostly blank, and i don't know her reason for quietly deleting everything)
    EDIT: to be clear, i am NOT referring to Miisha, who has apparently also deleted her account within the past hour or so.
    EDIT: the account in question is @applebusch@lemmy.blahaj.zone, she has revealed herself in the comments and it appears there is no need for secrecy.

these are only the ones i've noticed, perhaps there are even more?

i was willing to accept a possible coincidence with the first two, but three fairly active accounts going dark in a week, two of which on the same day, is setting off alarm bells. does anyone know if these people are alright, and what the heck is going on?

(if you'd rather not disclose it publicly, please shoot me a DM on lemmy or at @daporkchop:daporkchop.net on matrix)

UPDATE (2026.10.16 06:30 UTC): @applebusch@lemmy.blahaj.zone has confirmed that she's going through some shit but is still with us, her account purge appears to be unrelated to the others

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[–] 4 points 2 hours ago

I’m still here. I worry about everyone else though.

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  • [–] 9 points 8 hours ago* (last edited 5 hours ago) (2 children)

    im fine. mental health bad. feel a strong need to isolate.

    not that anyone here cares.

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  • [–] [S] 4 points 2 hours ago

    i care, you're an important member of this little community and seeing all your messages gone scared me :(

    that said, i'm very relieved you're okay (physically) and that your account purge was unrelated to the others. all the cute trans girls in my phone mean quite a lot to me - frankly interacting with this community is one of the main things which got me through the past few months - and the thought that somebody might decide to end it one day and i'd have now way of knowing what happened is terrifying. and i'm sure i'm not the only one who feels this way!

    i don't know what exactly is going on, but if there is any way i can help (or even if not and you just need an ear), please don't hesitate to reach out. your community is here to support you, if you'll let it :)

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  • [–] 18 points 11 hours ago (7 children)

    Oh, you know. Bit of the old bipolar. My bf had a work accident. One or two of his vertebrae are fractured. He's lucky to be alive and able to walk. Combine that with the bad stuff I've been doing on 196, mix in my mental health and account deletion is probably the mildest outcome of all of this.

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  • [–] [S] 21 points 11 hours ago

    to be totally honest with you, i hadn't noticed that you'd deleted your account until a few minutes after i made this post, nooooo :(

    i'm so sorry about your boyfriend 🫂 glad to hear that he's not paralyzed, back injuries are scary. hope he's able to recover relatively quickly...
    i don't think i saw any "bad stuff" on 196? like, i've been checking our your posts for the last few days and didn't see anything that stood out as bad?

    anyway i'm glad to hear that you're still with us, even if your account is gone again. please, please, please, shoot me a DM if shit starts/is hitting the fan, i'm pretty much always willing to lend a hand or give whatever support i can :)

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  • [–] 4 points 11 hours ago (4 children)

    how … ? I mean, how do you survive all this 😭

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  • [–] 7 points 11 hours ago* (3 children)

    Drugs. Lots of drugs.

    CW: substance

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  • [–] 6 points 10 hours ago* (last edited 10 hours ago)

    I used to be very anti-drug but honestly, this is fine. These are not normal times, and you can use whatever means to get through them. Know your limits and make sure to be alright when the times get better (they wiill!)

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  • [–] 19 points 11 hours ago (4 children)

    dammit ! I hope everyone's okay :(

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  • [–] 7 points 11 hours ago (2 children)

    tell me you're not going anywhere ;_;

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  • [–] 4 points 8 hours ago

    I'm still here, and not planning on going anywhere

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  • [–] 10 points 11 hours ago

    Wtf! I just talked to Miisha hope they are ok :/

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  • [–] 6 points 10 hours ago (2 children)

    I was only aware of #3 and Miisha. I have no idea why or if its a coincidence. Somehow it notified me when #3 deleted a reply on something I posted, and I did see some of the process of purging the comments.

    I hope they're all doing fine, but this is concerning. Please let us know if you get any explanations through DMs even if you can't share any details.

    If I leave by choice I promise to leave some explanation somewhere. If I suddenly delete my account or dissapear without explanation, that is cause for concern.

    I'll probably try to figure out matrix tonight or tomorrow.

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  • [–] 7 points 11 hours ago* (last edited 11 hours ago)

    No idea, maybe privacy issues or whatever.

    I def am still around, though, and plan to stay so!

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