I like to use Lemmy. In order for Lemmy to exist, people must post. Therefor I post and interact and in return I get a platform I like to use.

Even if you see everything as transactional, it still makes sense to post and engage with the platform.

I don't care what people think of the content I post, I try to post interesting and good stuff, but people are always going to disagree on stuff. I also shitpost and don't mind getting downvoted for shitposting.

Yeah you view social action as transactional, we get it.

I think it's worth upvoting responses if they are well reasoned. Even if I personally don't agree with the conclusions or think the response misunderstands the evidence. It gives some insight into alternatives and clarifies my own ideas. Or it's all just a bit of fun which hopefully makes someones day a little better.

I'd rather have civil discussion with disagreement, seems like that's much better here than somewhere like Reddit. I don't need validation, I need the truth.

Ha! And here you are, posting on lemmy.
Checkmate!
😎

I do like reading other people's comments. I hope people get something out of reading mine. But my position on posting remains unchanged for a while now:

My rule to live by (and this seems to trigger people online for some reason whenever I say it): never engage with comments online. I'll post a comment, but >99% of the time there is no reason to reply. I've made my point. There's hardly anything to gain from trying to change anyone else's mind or elaborating further. Someone has to make it abundantly clear that they are responding in good faith to warrant a response. My life has been much better since I started doing this and I would strongly recommend everyone try it out.

I find it even more absurd that people post about relationships problems (whether with a partner, friend or family member) and expect people to give any reasonable response when strangers have no idea of the context or lived experience and have one heavily skewed side of the story. That really is a place where people are just looking for validation. It has become a joke on Reddit and Lemmy how everything is such a "RED FLAG!!".

whats wrong with people disagreeing or aguing? Thats generally what I want but I would like it to be high quality. That is not so common. If its about something I like or hate I realize that im just basically starting a convo around an opinion of mine. I did one the other day on the masters of the universe movie because it gave me uncanny valley wierd ai vibes.

• there is no point
• exceptions are when there is a point

I guess

I do like external validation although I welcome being challenged aswell. I do also like discussion and empathising with people.

That is to say I am a social creature that evolved to be social, and although lemmy isnt socialising its pretty close (at least to my creature brain).

But when I post a question and get an answer I learn something. That's good, no?

Why did you post this?

i will never create content again

Main character ass post

I like the vibe of the message, no clue what is is the opinion here though.

You had me in the first paragraph then you flipped me in the third lol thank you for your time.

Depends on the platform. On Facebook I spend most of my time as visible pushback on shitty ideas and bigotry. On YouTube I recognize its mostly screaming into the void. Here on lemmy I get good and interesting discussions and also get to have visible pushback on bigotry.

That’s a cynical way of looking at it. Plenty of posts here aim to inform, educate, share something the poster created or found interesting, discover new perspectives, or have nuanced discussions.

It’s a natural part of communication to want feedback or engagement with something you share. There are always going to be mixed reactions, with the strongest ones getting the most attention. If you are sensitive to criticism, the negative responses can damper what is overall a positive experience. I would not stay on a platform where I consider the overall experience a negative one.

i think fedi has similar pitfalls to social media, namely the parasocial thing. just look at the design of lemmy and piefed, the title and text content is maximized and the poster's name and profile, and the community itself is minimized. on web forums the user's identity is much more prominent with a large avatar, long signatures on every post, and often times badges, awards, and titles displayed under their name.

Do you feel externally validated right now?