I’ll volunteer to help moderate. The reddit egg_irl was responsible for everything I am today and probably saved my life. I owe the community for what it did for me, and when the reddit bullshit went down and i had to leave reddit, i was okay with losing most of it b/c i don’t feel safe on reddit without 3pa’s, but losing r/egg_irl and watching that community tear itself apart broke my heart in a way i never would have expected.
this post was submitted on 18 Jul 2023
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egg_irl — Memes about being trans people in denial and other eggy topics
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Oh goodness is it okay to ask what happened? I didn’t look back on Reddit so I’m totally out of the loop but I always cherished egg_irl.
And I am happy that you are here with us :)
This post seems to sum everything up quite well. Then again I haven't browsed reddit since the announcement of Reddits bs
Thanks it felt like a good summary and yes I share the sentiment. I also packed my bags and left almost immediately but enjoyed select safe spaces there
That post is a decent intellectual overview of what happened throughout june, but it doesn’t really hit home as an explanation of why it broke my heart.
Basically everyone lost their empathy. Disagreeing with the mods decision to protest suddenly justified being a complete monster to people there. I’ve never seen that much vitriol in a place that’s supposed to be an emotionally supportive place. They’d say they were upset that they were losing a safe space, but they were actively working against it being safe.
I posted saying that I didn’t agree with the mods decision of “just post eggs”, but that it sucked because without 3pa’s i can’t keep myself emotionally safe on reddit and will have to leave no matter what, and i did support protesting the API changes in some way. I also said I thought the best form of protest would be considering egg_irl “bigger than reddit” by supporting versions of it here on lemmy, and on the mods’ preferred alternative (even tho i don’t think their raddle platform choice is a good one, which i was also clear about), so that those who had to leave had a supportive place to go. I was repeatedly attacked, called awful names, told to “just gtfo and go to raddle”, called a mod shill/bootlicker, told that i was an acceptable loss when 3pa’s go away, etc.
The mods made a decision to protest without consulting the community, but they didn’t break egg_irl. The small subset of the community who turned it toxic afterwards are the people responsible for it turning from a safe space to a hate haven. It wasn’t really a lot of people, but they were spewing hate and vitriol all over the sub for weeks, thinking they were saving the sub.
It was really awful to watch, and be on the sub when it happened. In a matter of days it went from a supportive place to pure toxicity, and the most toxic people were so convinced that they were fighting a righteous justified battle for the good of the community against oppressive fascist (that word was thrown around like confetti) mods. And if you weren’t just as toxic towards the mods, you were just as evil as the mods.
The vilification of mods was one of the worst fucking things to happen to reddit culture. Were there power tripping mods? Yeah no shit. But it never justified the amount of hate and toxicity that genuinely good mods received regardless of which community they modded on top of having to see (sometimes) the worst posts imaginable before removing them.
Oof, seeing TGCJ referenced in a popular post like that is no bueno.
God reading this and the responses was a mistake. Honestly I wish the "protest has failed, get back to your unpaid job you overreaching mods!!!" just stays there in their copium bubble.
Best of luck in the future, and may this community not tear itself apart!
Wow that is heartbreaking to hear. I left reddit before all of that happened, but egg_irl was a huge part of my egg cracking and I don't know if I'd be the same person I am today without it
Just a heads up that I have appointed you as a moderator. I've had another report sitting unactioned for nearly a week and the only active mod hasn't been active in the last week.
Oh, doesn’t even look like it’s that much to deal with, i’m on the case ma’am 🫡
Hi, I'm a mod here and I've been checking daily for reports. Not sure why it hasn't been showing up in my queue
Hey, mod here. I haven't seen anything so I'm guessing my app doesn't support mod tools. IL figure out a way to make it work If anyone has any suggestions of android apps with mod features please let me know
As it turns out, no android app supports any moderation related functions yet. I've added the website to my home screen and will keep an eye on the reports from time to time. To the people who use this community, I ask that you please report content that is against the rules and I will endeavour to remove it.
Thanks! Much appreciated
I posted elsewhere in this thread, but I would love to help moderate this community as well if you’re willing to accept an additional mod.
Hey, sorry but it's not my call to add mods I just work here :/
I've been trying to recruit but no one that I'm familiar with enough to trust seems to want to do it
If needed I can provide proof of ownership of my reddit account in which I've been a somewhat active member of trans and lgbtqia+ communities :)
If my help is needed, I will do my best for this community
I Uh Thought this post was for 196 sorry
Sorry, that was my bad. Wasn't aimed at you. I accidentally pinned it to the instance rather than the community.
Oh lmao
i'm willing to temporarily step in too, if mods are needed
(i'd rather not though if anyone else can)
if needed I can do it (I think?)
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