Ah I see you also have ADHD and executive dysfunction :D
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I'm going to start saving all these posts like this that I resonates with then go talk to someone.
I express how much I can't think of examples when someone asks for an exsmple
ADHD is a bitch
The worst feeling is feeling all of that but not being able to remember what the fuck I should be doing. Like I know I need to be doing something, and I should get off my ass and do it, but I can't even phathom what the fuck that thing is!
Then by the time you remember the thing, it's too late to do anything about it. Like if you have to go somewhere but it's already closed, or you have to start something (like defrosting food, or running the laundry) so it can be ready at a certain time later.
I found out it isn't being lazy if you don't enjoy the procrastination. It is executive dysfunction.
I'm doing it right now. Someone please teach me to stop.
If you go do the thing, a random internet stranger will be proud of you!
Thank you, random stranger. I did the thing.
we're proud of you
Did you actually do the thing? Or are you just telling us you did the thing and are still procrastinating on doing the thing?
I got myself to start doing things through ticketing/ incident responses
Split things into something:
- Problem description
- Root cause
- Immediate Actions / solution
- Corrective Actions
With checkboxes on the solution /corrective actions. Then I do the immediate actions
For example,
Laundry
- Problem description
- Laundry on floor
- Root cause
- No hamper
- Did not do laundry
- Immediate Actions / solution
- Find basket
- Collect clothes
- Wash clothes
- Corrective Actions
- Acquire hamper
- Create laundry schedule.
Each ticket is separate and gets moved from open to closed once complete so its not too many bullet points / checkboxes and a little less overwhelming. 3/4 are checkboxes.
That might not work for everyone, but it is so much more refreshing/constructive than all the defeatism. I'm not sure I could be that organized, but I do love a list!
One of my strategies is to treat it like getting into cold water. I force myself to jump in against my every instinct. Not easy to do but that framing often gets me over the hump. And just like the water it ends up being fine and is way better than the torture of wading in or never doing it.
If you listen to any comment on the internet, I swear to God you need to listen to this one. Go see a fucking psychiatrist and get a prescription. It will change everything for you.
What should I do to afford this?
If you have reasonable insurance most will cover some of this
Go live in Mexico
Stretches comfortably in Canadian
That was because of this : https://www.zmescience.com/science/news-science/mexico-is-officially-launching-universal-healthcare-this-week/
(Otherwise I'm in France, healthcare is also a comfortable given here)
That was today, minus the chips. Just staring while lying on the couch, wanting to do something, but not able. Sucks
I'll try again tomorrow
It was a big step for me to say: „Fuck it! I‘m not gonna be productive anyway, I‘m gonna go for a walk and buy a lemonade or a coffee.“
Use these feelings. Turn them upon themselves. Reframe it as your lack of productivity is making you eat less chips than is optimal, but you can let your chip zeal override your procrastination in its desire for chip-oriented satiation. Then, you're being productive at eating chips.
I'm pretty sure this post qualifies as a violation of my privacy, I'm doing this exact thing right now.
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