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[–] 71 points 4 months ago (1 child)

A lie is based on intent. If you're purposely intending to mislead someone, whether by omitting information or by outright stating false information, then it's a lie.

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  • [–] 31 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) (7 children)

    I wouldn't consider it in a vacuum. I also look at intent and consequences. Did they omit info to gain advantage over others, or were they refusing to tell a Nazi where they hid the jews? Did their choice lead to a better outcome for everyone, or did it cause chaos and disrupt lives needlessly?

    Everyone going "duh it's still a lie" - calling someone a liar carries a specific connotation which I don't think applies in all cases of so-called "lies". To me, a lie carries with it not just an intentional falsehood but an accusation or an accusable misdeed. I wouldn't call someone a liar because they hid jews from nazis.

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  • [–] 14 points 4 months ago

    You are either answering the wrong question, or are defining a lie based on some criteria I don't recognize.

    Telling a Nazi there are no Jews in my basement is a lie. The only way it's not a lie is if there are, in fact, no Jews in my basement. But it is not wrong to lie to a Nazi.

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  • [–] 26 points 4 months ago (2 children)

    Omission can be a lie as long as the intent is to deceive. Thats an important element to making something a lie

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  • [–] 2 points 4 months ago (1 child)

    I run into this with my wife because we put different importance on different information, and I tend to go for succinct rather than take an hour to get something across.

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  • [–] 3 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

    I think the issue with this situation is often one person assuming they know what’s important and what’s not instead of letting the other person decide for themselves once they’re given the full info, it’s why omissions are often considered lies.

    You’re actually not entitled to decide what others find important or not

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  • [–] 18 points 4 months ago (4 children)

    Disagree. It's deceptive, but not a lie. A lie is a deliberately false statement, which omission cannot be.

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    [–] 15 points 4 months ago (2 children)

    If Jean-Luc Picard says it’s so, it’s so.

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  • [–] 12 points 4 months ago

    the crucial element of a lie is intention to deceive, either by ommission or commission

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  • [–] 8 points 4 months ago

    I think omission can be used for misleading/deception, but that it's distinct from a lie.

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  • [–] 8 points 4 months ago* (1 child)

    I'd say it's technically a lie: an intentional misleading. Paltering is its close cousin.

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  • [–] 7 points 4 months ago

    Depends. Intentionally omitting information in order to mislead? That's a lie. Simply not mentioning something? Or not mentioning it because it's embarrassing for you or someone else, because you didn't think it was relevant, or because it's not their business or not your business to share? Not really a lie. Not in the same way anyway.

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  • [–] 6 points 4 months ago

    If the person lying by omission has the intent of causing the recipient to have false understanding (e.g. to provide basis for a choice) then it's at least as dishonest as a blatant lie.

    If they omit information because they think it's irrelevant then it's just ignorance or negligence. Dishonest in the sense that it's not forthright.

    Neither lies nor omission are inherently unethical without some basis for the relation between the two people being honesty/loyalty.

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  • [–] 5 points 4 months ago

    Yes.

    And lie by suggestion and implication is also a lie.

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  • [–] 5 points 4 months ago (1 child)

    Are you sure you’re not really asking if lying is good or bad? To me that’s an important distinction that should be addressed.

    My kids used to believe in Santa and the Tooth Fairy. I perpetuated those lies because it was fun for everyone, and the boys enjoyed it. Now they’re older and know better, and they understand both sides. They were not hurt or upset.

    But if I know my friend’s wife is cheating on him, and I don’t say anything to him, then obviously that’s bad and my friend would be devastated even more to find out I withheld such important information.

    We often conflate “not telling lies” with “all lies are bad”, and that’s not always true.

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  • [–] 5 points 4 months ago

    It really depends on context.

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  • [–] 5 points 4 months ago (2 children)

    Reminds me of Wheel of Time

    Something like "shall speak no word that which is not true" is one of the 3 oaths... but they can still deceive without technically lying...

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  • [–] 4 points 4 months ago (2 children)

    The core of dishonesty is disrespect for others and the truth. That's the core issue. Focusing on the method of prevarication is academic.

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  • [–] 1 point 4 months ago*

    I think we need better/more descriptive words for lying and deception.

    When I tell my child to stay still for the injection because it wont be very sore and they'll hardly feel it, its not out of disrespect or malice. It is a fucking straight-up lie though I remember getting them when I was a kid.

    Edit : for the most part I agree with you, but i think better language could help. Lying to sell a timeshare and lying to get a kid to take their medicine are basically the same thing even though theyre very different.

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    [–] 4 points 4 months ago (4 children)

    Disagree

    All lies are deceptions, but not all deceptions are lies

    Lies are specific acts that are done, not acting is in itself not an act

    Conservation of energy cannot be called an expenditure of energy

    When people call something a "lie by omission" it's an attempt to shift the blame wholly to the other person rather than deal with the fact that part of the blame belongs to themselves

    My silence was not a lie; you guessed about reality, and I just didn't correct you

    You can still use it as a basis for future distrust and you can still use it as a reason to cut off or minimize future encounters

    But it is not and should not be considered a malicious action against you as you would a lie

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    [–] 4 points 4 months ago*

    No, that would be deceit. Similar, but not the same. You can deceive someone by lying. Lying is an act of deceit.

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  • [–] 4 points 4 months ago

    The intent matters. Did you omit something on purpose to serve your own agenda/narrative or did you omit something for some other reason.

    If you’re omitting something to serve yourself it’s a lie.

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  • [–] 4 points 4 months ago (1 child)

    I think it depends on the context. If it's like a close friend and the deception screws you over and was an unexpected betrayal, then it's basically a lie. If there's some reason someone might suck at a job and they don't mention it in the interview and were not asked, that's different because it's an adversarial situation and looking out for yourself means not showing all your cards, and everyone should understand that it's like that.

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  • [–] 3 points 4 months ago

    Not sure I'd call it a lie according to these definitions...

    A lie is an assertion that is believed to be false

    a false statement made with deliberate intent to deceive; an intentional untruth

    We don't need to call it a lie to ackowledge it still carries the same moral burden, judgement and implications.

    I'd call it deception.

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  • [–] 3 points 4 months ago

    If it's on purpose to deceive, I guess.

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  • [–] 3 points 4 months ago (1 child)

    Yes, that's why it's called that

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    [–] 2 points 4 months ago

    agree.

    but context matters.

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