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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Bulky_Clothes7341 on 2023-07-16 01:51:07.
I (f16) have leukemia I was diagnosed 2 months ago. It has been very very difficult chemo is a complete monster. But I’m trying to stay strong.
Today’s my Grandma’s 70th birthday. My extended family wanted to do a big party. Since I’m sick they made it safe. It was outside, everyone wore masks, and there was lots of hand sanitizer and Clorox wipes.
Since being sick I most days dress very comfy in lounge shorts and a T-shirt. Well, today I did the same thing. Well, a few family members (aunts and uncles and a few older cousins) kept asking why I decided to “dress like that” and that I should put more effort into my appearance. Nobody was super dressed up but I was the most underdressed. My parents said something but didn’t want to get mad because they didn’t want to ruin the day for my grandma which I understand.
Chemo messed up my taste buds and make me nauseous. the main things I can eat that don’t make me completely sick are different types of potatoes, grilled chicken, and popsicles/slushes. Well, all they had that I could eat and not vomit were popsicles so I had a few. Those same family members kept criticizing me saying I need to be healthier and eat actual food. I explained (so did my parents) the chemo has made me not be able to eat a lot of foods and popsicles are one of the “safe” things I can eat.
I wanted to yell at them but my parents reminded me we shouldn’t ruin the day for grandma. Well, I held my tongue until I complained about being exhausted and wanting to go home soon to my mom. And one of my aunts said, “what do you do that makes you so tired, every time I talk to your dad you are laying around or watching tv”. I finally got too upset so I said well my body is constantly trying to fight off cancer cells while making the rest of me sick and weak.
Then I said so if you guys want to keep criticizing me you guys can experience cancer and chemo and then if you want to keep criticizing me go right ahead. I then apologized to my grandma and walk away. As I was I heard my aunts and uncles grilling my parents for what I said. My parents aren’t upset but I do feel like I ruined the party by saying what I said. So AITA.