That's it. That's the post.
No it's not.
Be kind to each other and stop acting so darn rude.
This is not a vague post in reference to any specific thing so if you think it is you're wrong it's not. Just shouting louder about something I've considered and mentioned for a long time on Hexbear. We're all too mean to each other (myself included sometimes I know it and I'm talking to myself here too) and we should be kinder. Or just don't engage if you can't be kind, you always have the option to not post. It's better for site culture, better for your own well being, and getting mad red and nude online isn't gonna change anyone's mind anyway so stop wasting your time getting mad at comrades. Go dunk on libs instead there's a whole fediverse full of them and it's much easier and much more fun that getting into a shouting match at comrades. Support each other here however we can and let's all learn and grow and be better and kinder together. And then use that energy to dunk on libs. Or do something meaningful in the world. Either way.
Okay now THAT'S the post.
If anyone starts shit in this thread imma pop 
BE NICE
Thank you for attending my ted talk
Yes and no. After federation I tried moving to my ml account for a month or two and I had a few times where people assumed bad faith about things I thought were very obvious jokes. One reply was particularly nasty, calling me a horrible human being. That stuff kind of gets to me, so I pretty quickly came back to this account for shitposting and commenting in hexbear comms.
Posting with this account over the years though I've only had one experience with someone here being a dick to me.
I do think we're way too clique-y with instances here, there are probably a lot of users kind of lost with which one to sign up with and then they just stick with their first one. There are probably some people who could fit in well that get pushed away when we're not assuming good faith because their instance also hosts a bunch of jackasses.
You're not kidding
I was ALMOST curious enough to ask what they were talking about.
I will admit, when I see another instance's account saying something I brace myself for a terrible and ignorant take. I have tried to be more reserved with it recently though, if something is up to interpretation it is better to get someone to clarify what they mean instead of just assuming the worst.
If you treat them nicely, you can always go back on that if they turn out to be awful, but if you treat them like shit and are wrong, you can't undo how you treated them. That's how I've been trying to look at it.