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Plural - for those who are never alone

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Given that different headmates may have different forms (at least in headspace) between each other, these forms may not always align with the physical body. Some headmates may have different forms compared to the physical body; maybe different in height, size, age, gender, or even species.

With that, how do you feel about your physical body in relation to yourself and how do you manage that? How do you handle the mismatch between physical and headspace body?

Note: be careful about mentioning too much personal or identifying informations here. Remember that this forum is public on the internet, so take care and keep everything non-identifying.

For me, I am relatively different but somewhat similar with my physical body. While my headspace form isn't always consistent, it's generally within the same body type as my physical one. The differences are mostly minor, at least for the body.

The biggest differences are with my face and hairstyle, which greatly differs between headspace and physical space. It's hard being reminded by how different I look between headspace and physical space. I don't really identify with my physical body too much, to the point where I don't like to look at mirrors.

And it's hard to be reminded that even though we are all different people with different body in headspace, we share the same exact name and body physically that none of us feel as ourself. None of us are our physical body for some reason.

And I'm kinda lucky. Our other headmates are even more different to our physical body. It's worse for our core/host as she's a trans girl, so she has to deal with gender dysphoria on top of the general disconnect we have. Perhaps that's why many of us feel disconnected.

We mostly deal with this by not thinking about it too much.

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[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Dully: We basically treat it as a vehicle and interface device. Though our folks who aren't humanoid in the slightest (we have a couple) don't tend to front much.

Cat: Also, we got a really good kitty ear headband and some tail accessories, which help a lot.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Churchill: we also treat our body as a vehicle and interface device, but some of us personally prefer our vehicle to match ourselves better-- especially due to gender dysphoria for our female headmates.

I suppose clothing can be one way we express ourselves. I do have certain clothing I like to wear that the others don't, but switching clothes can't be done as quickly and snappily as switching front.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Luckily for us (me and woman who I share my body with), We are 'twin' so we don't really have problem with our physical face however sometimes I did I wish my body would be a bit more 'androgynous' but I'm doing fine with our physical body!

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

That's good to hear, but do you all find it hard to make both of you distinguishable from each other? Or do you prefer to be similar to each other?

I personally wish that we could co-front with more than one body, like physically sitting or doing things together. But otherwise we are fine, though we wish our body would match ourselves better.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

I actually prefer to be similar with each other. Since we're twin while we might look similar but personality wise we're very different like day and night so it won't be hard to know who is who. And yes we share the same wishes. We wish that we would have our own body to do thing together ( Especially for her that sometimes she wish to physically smack me when I overspend or something-)