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Edit: decided a default "amogus" was funnier and made more sense
stonetoss is a nazi, boo
It'd be better to use a different format.
Pretty sure this is one of those edits that make fun of stonetoss, but I still get what you mean.
(Back on aliensite, there used to be a community called "antifastonetoss" that had some pretty funny edits of the asshole's comics.)
Agreed. Remove stone toss and replace with anything, even a literal photo of shit, and this would be better
But what if we dont know if we even feel gender and just lurk to learn? 👉👈
Agender egg?
Honestly, i dont know.
what is that like? 🤔
Someday i had the thougth that the existence of trans people implies that there must be a emotion/feeling or way of knowing your own gender.
So i asked the people that i trust, they confirmed the existence of a gender feeling, and that left me questioning.
Do i have a feeling and dont realize it, do i have no feeling, what the heck is a gender, what does that mean for me, are part of my body issues conected with that topic etc.
Gender is kind of fucky. It doesn't necessarily matter to someone being trans. We know that's a controversial take but what we mean is this: Gender and sex are both social constructs, therefore don't worry too much about feeling one overarching 'gender' or something, instead focus on things like "what do I like to do?", "who do I want to be?", "am I okay with my body?" "if I am not okay with my body then why not?" "how can the things I am not okay with be resolved? Is it through learning to accept that I don't have to look like people expect or do I genuinely want to change my body?" etc etc. We genuinely hope this helps.
It certainly helps to hear that the "fuck gender, gender is just a social construct " approach is a thought other beings had :D. And to focus on single things instead of the whole picture is a good advice, makes it easyer to approach the "problem" so thank you.
Sure, we are happy to help!
Someday i had the thougth that the existence of trans people implies that there must be a emotion/feeling or way of knowing your own gender.
I've seen multiple of trans people say things along the lines of "I decided I was a girl a few years after starting HRT and everyone was already calling me one." Guess they could just be agender specifically.
Anyways, I also find the whole topic of gender confusing, so can't help you too much with figuring out the answer to that (I've been in these communities for a the last few years (after my egg cracked) and frequently interacted with the community for a couple years before that.
Ultimately, I don't think it really matters what a gender is though to determine what steps you can take to be happier regardless of your gender (or lack thereof). I certainly heard that idea before, but it still took me a while to really internalize it.
Share how you feel and invite others to join in who feel the same? Unfortunately, the agender communities on the fediverse are dead, but plenty are spread throughout the fediverse.
Any specific ways you would prefer your body to be or others to see you assuming you could just magically have your body be a specific way or society was welcoming to seeing you that way (ie: a sexless body or people just accepting that you have no gender are both options)?
I am not sure/am still thinking about how i perceive my body and how i want other to perceive it.
Recently i tried to wear a skirt and realized that i look more masculine in it than i thought and to my suprise i didnt like that. So i guess i want to be percived without a specific gender or as something in between.
And if i could magically assemble a new body for me (work in progress):
(maybe go for both just so i dont need to decide, its magic after all)
Both is an option without magic. Salmacian and penile preserving vaginoplasty are terms associated with it. Not gonna be fully functional for both though - gotta resort to magic for that.
Hmmm, thank you for providing that information. (Tho surgery is scary and feels very final)
Agreed. But I think just knowing others feel the same, some of whom are willing to even do surgery to reach their goal, can be comforting and make one feel less alone.
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