Watching a person's eyes slowly glaze over while you talk but you're in too deep and there's no way to wrap it up quickly
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I have had this experience in the strangest places. For example, I've been paid to talk to someone about their own business and have had this moment. I have had people do this for very surface level jargon (and I'm sure they didn't need to understand) to tell a joke. I feel like I'm self conscious about this to a fault and it's still a common occurrence.
No I mostly just don't talk about anything that interests me anymore because of how poorly people treat me when I get too excited about it
That's a big mood. 
I still have to stop every so often to ask my partners if I'm annoying them when I let myself info dump. Luckily, they're all just as ND as me, so they have no problem with it.
I've never had anyone like that in my life. Even online.
Often times I stop myself from even pursuing or thinking about my interests because it seems pointless to do everything devoid of the context of other people
Well, feel free to info dump to me, comrade! I love hearing people talk passionately about their interests, even if I know nothing about them! 
Maybe I'll take you up on that sometime
I will warn you that I'm not always super prompt on replying because low spoons, but my inbox is always open!
So who wants to talk about mechanical keyboards, horror movies, and socialist theory???? Anyone? No...?
I don't know all that much about mechanical keyboards, but I'd love to learn! (although it's not a hobby I can really afford lol) And horror movies aren't really my thing, but I love discussing theory!
Split ergo column stagger is the way to go imo. ColemakDH is way better than QWERTY, and I won't even pretend otherwise.
I'm almost done with Reform or Revolution but it might be worth a reread because main thing I am getting out of it is that Luxemburg really didn't seem to like Bernstein lol. I am actually going back over a few that I've read in audiobook format while driving. Gonna finish up Principles(second time) and then go back through State and Rev. I wanna finish this year out with a few more ML focused texts and then next year work through some Anarchy and Syndicalist stuff along with some leftist Christian stuff because even though I'm an atheist, I still find deconstruction interesting and like seeing Christians become comrades on the other side lol. Also at some point I wanna dig into Critical Theory, Feminist Theory and see how they relate to Marxism. Phew...
I've been wanting to try a split ergo, they seem really comfy to use.
I really struggle to read theory or do audiobooks due to my neurodivergences and mental illnesses, tbh, so I've picked up a lot of my theory based on discussions on posts I read and talking things out with comrades, which I feel has served me surprisingly well lol. Unfortunately, that does mean I can't really comment on specific works, though.
Definitely check out an ergo split if you have the opportunity. There is some adjustment but your shoulders, wrists and fingers will thank you later. I use a Ferris Sweep but it's a bit extreme. I'd say look into something like a Lily58 or Sofie if you want something a bit easier to adjust to. They have number row and outer pinky columns so you can use a more traditional keymap without much tinkering outside of maybe navigation keys and Function keys.
I get the struggle with theory. I just finished Reform or Revolution and it was a complete slog for some reason to get through. I am gonna look for another book on the subject to recommend since I'm kind of big on the argument of reformism vs revolution right now.
I am actually probably gonna listen to it again on audiobook and hope it catches my attention more.
I also get the ND/mental health thing. I go through days where I really don't want to do anything at all. I'm forcing myself to program for a few hours each day for a bit of control in my life right now. But I also find reading theory sort f therapeutic in a weird bittersweet sort of way, I guess.
With that said, I can say with some degree of confidence that a lot of people on here that legit discuss theory are pretty spot on for the topics I am familiar with so no shame in learning through others that can distill it down to a point that you can take it in. We all grow in different ways.
For topics we aren't familiar with, and not to be preaching to the choir, but I just ask(or wait for someone else to ask) but also check out like YT videos and other supplemental stuff on it. Just gonna make sure the content is from comrades. I tried to do 2 different reading groups on lemmygrad when I first signed up and realized real fast that I was gonna burn out if I was in a structured setting that I was required to read a certain quota of pages and then discuss it. I snuck away from those and just adsorb what I can when I can.
But like also we don't need to know all the topics right now, and some of it I think could even be skipped? Just don't overwhelm yourself. If learning through conversation works, stick to that, and of course no shame in not knowing some stuff.