I meet tons of people on Discord.
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Hey people have dated and married over gaming chats before. I knew someone in college he met his then about to engage fiance. I lost contact after graduation though
A couple years ago I had my discord nametag as my Mario Kart Wii nickname, zheg#someNumbers, random people added me and then talked with them while playing. Those were good ol' days.
Love yourself and be content in being alone, get to know the real you. When you do that, you will find the right people. It will be instinctual.
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I hear Lemmy is pretty good as a sort of forum, maybe you've heard of it?
But more seriously, I've found that social media platforms (even the fediverse ones) tend to limit connections to surface-level. I personally wouldn't rely on them to find people to talk to. But if you're looking for communities who share similar interests, it's very good at that. If you're looking for individuals, the next best thing is sliding into someone's DMs to have a more focused one-on-one conversation. I'd recommend against doing that without some other interaction first (it looks scammy).
In case you want to chat, my DMs are open.
VRChat is an option. Takes effort to make your way to the cool people tho.
Ancients or relics depending on your timezone OP. That's the good shit, some of the coolest people I've met.
What things are you interested in? Video games, ttrpgs, anime, cinema, woodworking, sports, fast cars, sneakers, programming, yoga, wines, bdsm, books, drawing, dogs, veganism, religion, music, hiking?
Whatever the answer is, find a community for it or adjacent to it. On Lemmy, Reddit, Discord, Matrix, or some obscure forum.
And then, the last step, is engage with that community.
This.
You make bids for connection and continue the ones that are reciprocated.
No disrespect, but I laughed when I read your comment.
That is exactly what I am asking, Where do I do that?
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Make comments that leave room for discussion, ask people what they think about things, continue conversations that start, etc. Be open.
I'm not sure this is a good place to cultivate conversation but it's certainly possible.
We could easily make some sort of Lemmy instance where lonely people could find friendship and love, right? Maybe it's been created already? I met my now wife online (about a decade ago) so don't lose hope, you never know what tomorrow holds!
For me, what worked best has been smaller sites/communities! Specifically art/roleplay spaces (with the caveat these spaces also have a lot of drama and people who live for said drama) and virtual pet sites somehow lol. But I also feel like people online just aren't as interested in talking or having actual conversations as much as they used to, so it's less about looking in specific places and more about just... Getting lucky and finding someone on your same wavelength I suppose.
Gaming can be another way to meet people too. Can't speak from experience there, but my brother was super involved in the Hearts of Iron IV modding community for years and made friends through it!
They don't.
If you want to talk to real people you've got to go out in the real world.
Volunteer for something. Animal shelters and community theaters always need extra hands.
What is it that you want to talk about? There's plenty about programming, math, and stuff like that. Maybe other stuff too, but that's the stuff I'm into. Hacker News is definitely overrated and always has been though.