Sub for relationship advice and problems.
I think that if you’re keeping score of how many snacks you’ve given someone then you’re doing it for the wrong reason
Like I don’t host a party and provide food because I expect to get food in return. I do it because I like the people I’m inviting and want to spend time with them.
What? You shared lunch with her two times, and now your brother is making you doubt if you are doing too much for your girlfriend?
What an asshole. Tell him to mind his own business, and just enjoy that you can make your girlfriend happy.
And if you feel like you don't know enough about her, maybe uhm try getting to know her more?
shes a classmate not my girlfriend, and I know about her I just don't know if her family is poor or not or if they are struggling.
Sorry, i read "friend G" as "G friend".
I would still say whatever. If sharing makes you feel good, who cares what your brother thinks.
I personally thinks the whole "something for something" mentality is one of the problems in the world. I like giving, i do it a lot. I don't expect anything back, but i like the way it makes me feel about myself.
i think karma is more practical that superstitious. Doing good things makes me feel good about myself, makes me project a better energy. When i project a better energy, people are more open towards me. More open, and more willing to be generous towards me as well.
It all comes back to you. Don't let your brother make you feel like you can't do something for a friend of yours, especially if you suspect she is down on her luck.
In addition to what the other commenter's have mentioned, I'll say that everyone has different ways of showing affection. One of yours seems to be sharing food, but that's not something everyone would do. Is she showing you affection in other ways? Does she encourage you with the things she says? Does she make you laugh? Is she physically affectionate? Does she make a specific point to spend time with you? It's possible that she's reciprocating in other ways.
I'll also add that your reciprocal attitude is well-intentioned, but might lead you to a life of resentment if you hold it too tightly. Remember that everyone--including you and your family--have received good things from people for whom you have never returned the favor. And you'll likely do the same for others at some point. If things get serious with this person and the relationship feels completely one-sided, then that's something to evaluate--but don't expect every little act of affection to be reciprocated in kind. Look for overall patterns of behavior, don't put too much stock in any one thing.