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submitted 1 week ago* (last edited 6 days ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]
 

Femboys are boys who dress, act, and/or look feminine.

Trans girls are girls who were assigned male at birth and identify as girls.

I hope this clears up any misconceptions on the subject.

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 6 days ago (1 children)

One of these is someone being forced to dress as the opposite gender because their mom is a nutcase btw.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 5 days ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 2 points 5 days ago

The bottom left one

[–] [email protected] 10 points 6 days ago

Love em both though

[–] [email protected] 8 points 6 days ago

Top left - Astolfo (Fate/Apocrypha) (artist is pas / paxiti - https://danbooru.donmai.us/posts/3208688) (NSFW site)

Bottom left - Nagisa (Assassination Classroom)

Top right - Lily Hoshikawa (Zombieland Saga)

Bottom right - Luka Urushibara (Steins;Gate) (artist is foge - https://danbooru.donmai.us/posts/1271211) (NSFW site)

[–] [email protected] 4 points 6 days ago

oh so pink and blue are femboy, while brown and gray are girls

[–] [email protected] 2 points 5 days ago (1 children)
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[–] [email protected] 6 points 6 days ago

And there’s nothing wrong with being either! Both are adorable :D

[–] [email protected] 5 points 6 days ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 2 points 5 days ago

not at all disguised bisexuals, let us assemble ✨

[–] [email protected] 0 points 6 days ago (2 children)

i.. disagree? surely the only difference is what they identify as?
sounds pretty shitty to only let people qualify as trans when they've actually transitioned..

[–] [email protected] 6 points 6 days ago (1 children)

That's not the message or takeaway from this post, it is that boys can be feminine without being trans.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 6 days ago (2 children)

right but then why define being trans as having transitioned? why not just say
"femboys are boys who dress, act, and/or look feminine. Trans girls are girls who were assigned male at birth and identify as female"

[–] [email protected] 7 points 6 days ago

That is a better one and I should've written that from the beginning.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago)

Transition can refer to a lot of different things, not just medical transition. if you start to ask others to call you by different pronouns for example that's a form of social transition even if you've only chosen to come out to a few people

edit: To clarify I'm not saying you need to have even done that step to be valid as a trans person, it's just likely that no one would know you're trans unless you've at least taken that step

[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago) (1 children)

surely the only difference is what they identify as?

sounds like you already know the difference, where's the disagreement? dudes can be fem without being trans gals

[–] [email protected] 0 points 6 days ago (2 children)

the disagreement is that i think people don't need to transition to be trans, they just need to identify as a different gender than they were assigned at birth.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago) (1 children)

i'm trans and i don't disagree, i'm just confused how you're getting "pre transition trans girls are femboys" (a statement that i agree is wrong and problematic) out of this meme. people who identify as boys but present femme aren't trans girls either way, one layer of this meme is about them getting lost in the noise about trans women.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 5 days ago

i'm confused how you got that from what i've said, as that is specifically not what i'm saying

[–] [email protected] 1 points 6 days ago

I think this is a misunderstanding, you and OP both agree on that point. OP just didn't clarify that pre-transition trans people are still trans in the post lol

[–] [email protected] 40 points 1 week ago (5 children)

Sorry to confuse the issue, but I'm an AMAB enby that fits both and neither of these categories. =3

[–] [email protected] 4 points 6 days ago (1 children)

You're just too awesome B)

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 days ago (1 children)

Hehee, thanks, but I'm just being me 😺

[–] [email protected] 3 points 5 days ago

yeah, that's what I said!

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[–] [email protected] 36 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Ruka is probably my favorite trans character in media for the fact she tried to alter time to "become a girl". Someone just needed to let her know about the magic of estrogen

[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago)

at the same time, I hate that so much of her motivation seems to be "I wanna date the MC and the MC is straight, so I must become a girl."

Steins;Gate is honestly so good I often forget it's basically a harem VN. It's not like I should be that surprised one of the girls is written that way, but I wish the Ruka arc focused more on how she felt about her own self and identity, rather than her infatuation with the MC.

[–] [email protected] 25 points 1 week ago (7 children)

Maybe she just wanted more than what Estrogen and bottom surgery could provide her?

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[–] [email protected] 33 points 1 week ago (12 children)

I don't think Astolfo is a femboy cause they never refer to themselves as a boy and the japanese games use neutral pronouns. Big non-binary energy.

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